What Am I doing wrong?

Question

I'm blonde, slim with a pretty decent figure ive also got a university degree so dumb I aint but just can't seem to find the right guy! they either don't take me seriously and try treating me like a toddler or I just attract the bad guy type who want to control me and punch me in the face! what am I doing Wrong?

Answer 1

dont change a thing darling your find someone who deserves you sooner rather than later

Answer 2

Unfortunately for us blonde's, men either think we are "dumb" and abuse that, or if we are well educated, they feel threatened by us. Go figure! I know how you feel, and I actually think it applies to all reasonably attractive women.

Stop trying to find Mr Right Hon, and he will find you. A cliche I know, but it actually works! Maybe you are looking in the wrong places. My b/friend says some women just "look" like they are looking, and it puts the guys off big time! Relax, enjoy yourself with friends, join a gym or country club and you will eventually meet someone who appreciated YOU for who and what you are. Good luck. (Ever thought that maybe you come across TOO confident in your looks etc? - Just a thought from your comments! Don't be too sure of your looks Hon, not all guys have the same tastes remember! To some guys you might NOT be sexy!)

Answer 3

Nothing. But get yourself a copy of a book called 'Mars & Venus on a DAte' by John Grey. (the same guy who wrote 'Men are from Mars ....). It is brilliant and everyone i have given a copy to has found the right person within monts. i always recommend they read it through twice before they even consider going out with anyone new and keep it in a safe place until they have the right person so they can dip into it even then. Throw it away the day you get married or pass it on to a friend .

Answer 4

You are not meeting the right sorts of people. There are loads of decent people out there that will accept you for you. The important thing to remember is that you need to be happy with you and sorted! You certainly seem to know where you are coming from. Try changing your social settings once in a while, meeting different and interesting people.
Good Luck

Answer 5

It sounds like you're looking in the wrong places hun!!! I think you're selling yourself short!!
Could you go to different venues than where you are now - maybe more upmarket type places??
Im not trying to be offensive - but are you dressing ok? Like if you 're dressing a bit slapperish then maybe you're drawing the wrong attention - if you're not dressing that way then I dont know why you're attracting the wrong type?
Just try changing places you hang out - Im sure that will help
Good luck!
xx

Answer 6

u doin nutin wrong, but u projecting the wrong image to the world. stop giving off the current vibe that you are giving i.e. slightly desperate and willing. im not one to jude, since i dont know you, but i do know how guys think.

1. since you are smart and attractive- assume an air of snobbishness with the guys. make them know that only the best will do since you are the best.

2. u HAVE TO believe that you are worth more than what you are getting! i believe that u are, and i dont even know u, so whats your excuse hmm:)

3. DO NOT be familiar with them- friendly but not familiar. u must make them make a real effort to be with you. if u make it easy for them, they wont take you seriously.

4. be demanding but not a b*itch. tell them what you need and what you want, and let them know that it is not acceptable for them to treat you shabbily or to pitch up late, or stand you up.

5. always be a bit mysterious. guys lurrrv mysterious women because it challenging for them, and they want challenges. they are addicted to the 'chase'.

6. let them know that there are many other guys interested to be with you. it will make them step up and do anything to keep you.

trust me, this works. i did this on campus (because i really do believe that im that hottt) and EVERY guy was eating out of my hand. coz at the end of the day, people know a good thing when they see it.

(btw, i didnt date any of them cz my parents only let me date when i finish graduate-which made me a gorgeous, but decent chick :)

rock on!

Answer 7

Maybe you are trying to hard to find someone to love....just go out and enjoy yourself with friends, and before you know it, that special someone will be right there, where he always was, but you never saw him....as for punching in the face, I hope to God you don't allow anyone to touch you like that. Good Luck.

Answer 8

you're expecting too much is what.
a relationship is never going to be right, you just have to learn to make the most of the good things and ride over the bad.
there is no right guy, there is no right girl, there is no justice.
so stop being so picky and learn to compromise.
hope this doesn't sound too harsh, i'm suffering the same troubles, as i'm sure are millions of others.

Answer 9

Sounds like you already have a lot going for you. sounds like you may be hanging with the wrong crowd, and as far as finding someone, don't look, that someone will find you. Just have fun and be patient. when it happens you will see that it was worth the wait...

Answer 10

Yo time will come wen u list expected,just keep up the beauty and have fun with those around u,

Answer 11

You're not in America I'm assuming. If you were, there would be quite a few guys that would appreciate a beautiful, intelligent woman. I am one of those guys that's still looking.