I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 5 month. She says I'm the one and talks about moving in with me. But there is this guy who's her coworker. Everyday whenever she doesn't have work to do, she spends several hours at his room/cubicle. At first the guy said he was just a friend but started gradually touching her kneecaps,wrists,waist. Sometimes at lunchbreak he would take her to a cafe and pay for the food. He would tell her cheesy metaphors about himself that could be interpreted different ways and she would keep thinking about that and retell them to me. Later she admitted she was starting to develop feelings for the guy. Then she took a 20 days vacation from work and we had a great time together. When she went back to work she said she stopped being attracted to that guy and I shouldn't worry, even though the guy now offered to take "their relationship to the next level" and invited her to his place. She said "no", but she keeps hanging out with him
2007-01-25 21:59:37 · 5 answers · asked by Andrew J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think there is much you could do with what happens at work. I'm sure her supervisor notices that she isn't being too productive when she's in the coworker's cubicle for hours. She might lose her job. As for the coworker, she's got to be the one who should backoff and tell him that she's in a relationship. If she doesn't then I would give her an ultimatum that's it's either you or him and that's the only way it's going to be. But, I wouldn't be surprised if the employer terminates her if her behavior doesn't change---or his.
2007-01-25 22:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let this woman move in with you. I don't think she respects you. If she did she wouldn't hang out with this guy. I think she wants to have an affair with him and keep you around so she'll have some where to stay. It is a weird relationship she's having, maybe too weird for you to be involved.
2007-01-25 22:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pls always try to speak your mind to her,let her know your stands,tell her if she needs a company she should rather spend it with you,give her rules and make her pick,tell her to stop spending time with this guy or else she i'll loose u,if she doesn't care or respond to any of that tell her off.
2007-01-25 22:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by tersy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to make clear to her that u aint here to b taken 4 granted. if theres smthg she must tell u
2007-01-25 22:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋