I just came out of a rather one=sided relationship with someone I was very much in love with up till the end, yet he didn't return those feelings... well, he technically did, but it was to another girl. Anyway, I was completely heartbroken, then a week later I started dating one of my close friends, someone I had almost dated a few times, but my ex would always interfere and tell me he wanted me back. I've been dating my friend for a week, we'd already been pretty close, and now I think I'm falling in love, but I'm not sure... I think it might be because I'm craving that love so badly, and he's offering it, and I feel safe. I don't know when it's gone beyond wanting to be in love and actually being in love. I know I trust him more than anyone else, I know for a fact that he won't ever hurt me, so falling in love with him isn't exactly risky. Anyway, I'd be grateful for any insights. Thanks!
2007-01-25 21:07:51 · 5 answers · asked by Ryoki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, when you love a person, you're willing to do whatever it takes for that person, even if it means letting go of a past that has given you so much pleasure. If you're going for this new guy because he gives you security, I may think that it's not yet love that's inside of you, but the feeling of being safe and the security that you won't get hurt - and in that case, it may probably not be love, maybe you're just healing your heart. If you want to be in love, you try - rather, force - yourself towards someone for a weak reason (i.e. security). When you really are in love, you're willing to risk everything - even life and limb - for that person, even if that means hurting someone else. When you want to be in love, the only risk that you're taking is losing someone - it could be your past or your present.
Maybe you should really talk to someone out of this triangle and help sort out your thoughts, that would really help.
Trust me. I know. (",)
2007-01-25 21:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by keeper_secrets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always seen the benefits of going with one of your VERY close friends. But the downfalls of these relationships are the worst. You lose ALL you had with this person, for whatever reason. But, maybe you can make this work. But I believe you may have just wanted that attention from someone from the day your relationship was over. I think you need to go out, have fun and meet people outside of your "circle." Try a bar in the nearest city. Preferably one where you know you wont bump into an ex. Make it even more fun by going out with your friends. Just let where you have been go. Get out there and find something totally random!
good luck.
:)
2007-01-25 21:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by ughhh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, i'm going to declare that in case you ought to question your love for him then likely you purely want him. once you like somebody you purely comprehend. i'm going to declare that for the period of a love relationship each and every thing is there, the want, and the choose. you like them and you elect them. i assume once you elect you elect him on your existence besides, then you definitely will comprehend you like him :).
2016-11-01 08:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by stever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
opportunity
2007-01-25 21:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own ????
2007-01-25 21:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋