My boyfriend went to the pub originally for 2 and a half hours and I didn't see him for 7 hours,?

Question

My boyfriend lives with me. I drove him to work in the morning and at lunch time he went to a leaving do for a colleague.He said he would be only about two hours. I said when you are finished text me and I will pick you up. Three hours past and no word. So I rang his phone. He didn't reply. I kept ringing about every half hour and still no reply. I got a text after five hours saying he would be home soon. I immediately rang back but he didn't pick up the phone again. He strolled after seven hours. He said the party had broken up but he had gone into town with two female work colleagues. He also blasted me for ringing him up all the time, that I should not have rang him so much. Was I unreasonable to ring up? Do you think seven hours for someone who hates crowds and smelly, smokey pubs is a bit long?
thanks

Answer 1

That is blatantly wrong. Of course you weren't unreasonable to ring him.

Answer 2

Its hard to give a correct answer as i dont know if this happens all the time or if you dont let him out much and always pester him.... But when us blokes go out for things like a leaving do you dont wanna be tied down to exact times to come home as things could be going well, your having a laugh, time is just flying past so you just go with the flow and the last thing you want is your phone going off every minute with someone checking to see what time your going to come home.... In saying that if i said i was going to be two hours but things changed i would have at least phoned or texed to say i would be staying longer but didnt know how long as i was having a laugh etc.

Wow... after submitting my answer i read some of the others... Talk about loads of bunny boiler women thinking the man has cheated. What evidence is there? I can see why so many relationships break up if they would dump the other half for that... Total rubbish!!!!!!

Answer 3

Hmmm. No, I don't think you were unreasonable. If he blasted you for ringing him that makes it all the more suspicious. I would be royally miffed. I don't know if this is the best advice but I would take my own seven hour excursion and not answer my cell phone. Then if he dared to say anything to me about it there would be a major problem. I have an awesome husband now and him and I would never do this to each other. However I had an ex-boyfriend who would go out and not come home and claimed he got drunk and "fell asleep" on someone's couch. After his best friend admitted to me that he was cheating and when he brought home crabs I finally got rid of his sorry a*s. You don't deserve this crap. It's better to be on your own than put up with this.

Answer 4

Why don't women understand this one?
I'll explain; man goes to pub with the best intentions of coming home in two hours,he is at a party and is having a good time,time flies by,drink clouds his judgement about phoning,about how much to drink,about how long he has been out,about when to eat,about making sensible choices.
He loves you,but he is drunk having a good time and does not want to reminded of all the crap he is going to be in when he sobers up(thats why he won't answer the calls).
He will give you grief about phoning him,all his work mates will be laughing at him(even though all the other wifes and girlfriends will do the same).
I have lived my live with someone who worries that i cannot look after myself when i am drunk or have not come home when i have said,so i know what you are doing to the poor lad,leave him be,give him grief next day and he will buy you a bloody great present because he feels bad about it all.
And no i doubt he is shagging the old slapper at work,not all men are twats.

Answer 5

Maybe if he had answered the phone youwouldnt have had to keep ringing!! I can see both of your sides to this story - he was wrong not to answer your calls or to let you know that he was going to be longer than he said he'd be - but you were wrong to keep ringing him!
I see why you would though - particularly when you thought you were going to pick him up - you could have made other plans for yourself if you'd known you wouldnt have been needed. Also you could have been concerned when he didnt show up and the fact that he didnt answer his phone could have further fuelled your worry that something had happened him.
For him though - I can see why he would have gotten annoyed when you kept ringing but he should have done the right thing and stepped outside the pub to let you know plans had changed and he wouldnt be home till later.
Seven hours is quite a long time to be in a pub - but if he was having a good time then you can see why he stayed out.
He was totally in the wrong for giving out to you for ringing though - that was his fault - if he'd done the right thing and contacted you - you wouldnt have had to
xx

Answer 6

I used to have this problem with my now fiance and it broke us up for a year. You have to be abit more flexible with him. don't ring him every 30 mins because he will see this as crowding even if you don't. If he is running late by more than an hour text him to say you are worried and are just checking that he is okay. He will be touched by you caring about him but he won't feel hounded. It he doesn't reply to your message after about an hour then try and ring him.

I wouldn't be going out of your way to pick him up neither because men think differently he may interpret this as a sign you don't trust him walking him home. Try to relax abit more, if you give him some space now and don't text him as often it may imporve things between the both of you instead of spliting you up like it did in my situation.

good luck

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Emma, he's using you as a convenient taxi firm. I would guess that he prefers other peoples company to yours, but isn't a man enough to tell you.
I don't think you were being unreasonable phoning him, you were concerned as to his whereabouts. He obviously wasn't concerned about you though was he?
I wouldn't take that kind of crap from him. Next time he goes out and doesn't stick to the time scale, ring him, if he doesn't answer, put his stuff into bin bags and shove it on the doorstep. He can pick it up when he eventually gets home.

Answer 9

god almighty! look at all the suspicious females answering this! calm down and relax! so, he went out on a bender, he was with 2 females, you know about them so he's not hiding anything. its not likely he's going to get off with one in from of the other is he? or whats the likelyhood of him having a 3some?...nahhh nobodys that lucky.
give the guy some space, and the benefit of the doubt, specially as he told you there were girls there. keep on like this and you'll suffocate the relationship and he wont be back at all.
he went out, had a good time and came back to you at the end of the night. so bit of trust is in order ok?

Answer 10

Dump the loser. If he wants to spend seven hours out on the tiles with so much as a single phone call, he's not good for you. Let him go off into the sunset with these two girls.

Good luck.

Answer 11

i was listening into a conversation my wife and Friend were having ,then she said he went out to get the newspaper from the shop and go down the pub ,next time she heard from him he was in Australia i nearly fell over.i live in england.