Do you get on with your mother in law?

Question

Only last week my mother in law called me a effing ugly ***** in the street, quite a few times and she was shouting it and it made me cry. The reason for doing this was she was going to pick my son up from school but because it was raining I thought I would pick him up to save her getting soaked, I put a note through her door saying I would pick him up but she missed the note and then said I was disrespecting her by picking him up. It really upset me and Iknow now I will never speak to her again. What are your views?

Answer 1

She had a cheek calling you an effing ugly ***** in the street especially when your quite a hottie ;-)

Tell her to stop being so F*cking jealous of your beauty and grow up before you take her precious son to another country! That should shut the old bat :-)

Answer 2

Sounds to me that you should lay down the law with your mother in law. How dare she talk to you that way. I hope your son did not hear her. I'd write her a note and say that you thought that as it was raining you would save her the trouble etc. You did this as a favour to her and you will not accept her talking to you like this. Tell her you want to be on friendly terms however there are expectations. I'd also ask your husband to back you up here. You are his wife and partner. Your mother in law has a lot to lose if she doesn't behave, maybe she should be reminded.

Answer 3

My mother in law pased away 18 years ago she was a wonderful woman and I still think of her everyday. She was a woman who treated me as the daughter she never had. Sorry I really dont know how to help but keep your chin up put on a brave face and act like the adult she isnt. If she does abuse you in front of your child you may have to speak to your husband or have it out with her in private.

Answer 4

I wouldn't worry too much, my Mother-In-Law thinks I am lazy and spoilt. When we were having financial problems because our Tax Credits were stopped because of an accidental overpayment she accused me of spending all our money on me instead of using it to pay bills etc.

I wouldn't let it upset you or put a strain on your relationship with your partner/husband, she's not worth it. Next time you see her just act as if nothing has happened and be polite and then if she gets nasty then you are in the right, you have acted like an adult whie she's behaving like a spoilt child. Just think of it in terms of karma, it'll all come back on her in the long run. ;-)

Answer 5

You seem to be a kind woman..Does she have a problem with alcolhol or drugs? Normal people just don't do that in public Or she's a miserable person and misery loves company OR she's just a narrow minded ***** that needs to go to anger management classes.

Either way, I wouldn't let her near my child If I were you. She also sounds like an abuser!

Answer 6

wow that`s pretty tough.i would`ve jumped at her throat but that`s not the answer.now she didn`t have to call you names.i understand that u don`t wanna talk to her anymore but you will have to deal with her since you are married to her son and she definitley wants to see her grandchild.just give her and you some time to cool off.i would definitely tell my husband about it and then try to talk to her.there was no reason for her to lose her cool like that and disrespect you in this way.if that doesn`t help kick her butt lol just kidding

Answer 7

I only have daughters but encourage them to respect and involve their mother-in-laws. I know they wouldn't but if any one of them spoke to my daughter like that I would be horrified. If it's the first time and it was a sheer outburst in anger either you or preferably your husband should tell her in no uncertain terms will you ever allow her to speak and embarrass you like that ever again and should she try it that is the END. Everyone deserves a chance but in this case only ONE. She sounds uncooth, ignorant and uncaring that apart from doing this to you she allowed her grandson to witness such behaviour.

Answer 8

i have been with my hubby now for 7 years and his mum hates me just as much as when we first started seeing each other, i have only ever loved her son and made him happy, i even risked my life to give him kids, but she blames me for everything when i haven't done anything,rings me up threatening me and calls me all sorts of-awful names to anyone who will listen. people have told me it is because I'm strong willed and wont have her telling us how to live our lives and bring up our kids, she has also fell out with a few others of her children for the same reason, my hubby put up with it for so long then told her unless she apologises and makes an effort he doesn't want to know her that was 2 years ago we haven't heard from her since, tell your hubby how it makes you feel maybe he could stick up for you, personally unless she apologises i wouldn't bother with her she wont be a good role model for your child with that attitude and you sound better off with out her, it is her loss not yours, good luck i know how upsetting and hard it can be especially if yer hubby still wants to see her and take your child but don't let her come between you both...

Answer 9

I've had two mothers in law and they were both ugly and stupid and the last one was evil as well.

I would recomend downloading Champion Jack Dupree's version of Mother In Law Blues and playing it when she visits.

Answer 10

if your partner agrees stay away from this woman as much as possible.do not let her talk her way out of it,doing what she did in public over something so trivial show's her to be unstable or dangerous. you are your son's mother and you are the boss, i have had similar experience's with the mother in law from hell trying yo control our lives.she has gone and we are now happy,please stay strong for you and your child.