2007-01-25 20:53:25 · 19 answers · asked by Normefoo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a true and good question.Well sometimes we don't have to answer all the questions cause its personal,I know its not good to keep it to ourselves.Sometimes we feel bad to tell what we were upset about cause men might think we are too bossy.Sometimes they ask us whats wrong but nothing wrong with us and they carry on, that's cause arguments.Women's sometimes have problems that they can't tell anyone cause its too embarrass.
2007-01-25 21:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Zexyana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are complex folks, my friend. Let me see if I can help you out on this one...
First of all, you're approaching this problem like a man, and that's not your fault, you're a man! ( I'm a man too, I know how it feels! ) You have to understand that women feel things 10x deeper than a man does. The man's instinct is to want to immediately reach into the tool box to "fix" whatever he perceives her problem to be. That is not what may be needed.
She could be in deep thought over something done or said. She could be going over her days activities. She could be mentally addressing some concerns of hers. That does not mean there is something "wrong", per se. It just means she's pondering over something. You might interpret this as something being wrong, but really it is not.
Let me give you a little "Lady 411", they communicate better than men do. If there is something wrong, you're going to know about it! They don't bottle it up inside and let it fester. If they have a problem, or something to say that concerns them, you will be the first to know. Getting you to listen to them once they do is a whole other issue, and the ladies can attest to that. But I would not sweat it if she's telling you that nothing is wrong. There probably isn't.
Give her a hug, and say, "Ok, but if there was anything wrong, I hope you could talk to me about it. " And then LET IT GO.
How's that? Did that help?
2007-01-26 05:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by C J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not a woman thing its a human way of trying to sort through what either made us have the emotion that made us close up and decide not to say the first thing out of our mouths. I for one think its the most intellgent thing to do or we just might say very hurtful , harmful and hateful words to that person we care so much about.
Majority of time its over something that has been done repeatedly. By then we know our partner should know what pushes those emotional buttons.
Sometimes I sit and think it through. Was what said really all that bad? Or was I being to thin skin? Did they really mean to be hateful or rude?
Was it a misunderstanding? When I weigh all of it through and decide what to do then I say whats on my mind.
So when a woman or man is ask whats wrong and they reply "nothing." Then my suggestion is to sit quietly and let them think and then when the time is right then they will tell you. Other wise let them tell you in anger or hurt.
2007-01-26 05:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I figure it, women are wired to know how everyone else is feeling much more than a guy would. When we don't recognize that something went wrong, they're annoyed because we failed to figure out whatever it was and then also annoyed because we failed to understand their annoyance.
At the same time, women are dreadful at reading a guy's mind. See some of the other "does he like me" questions for proof.
Ah... Mars vs. Venus, all over again and again.
2007-01-26 05:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women say "nothing is wrong" for a number of reasons. She might not feel like talking about it. She may think it will not make sense to you or that it will be a trivial problem to you. Or she may want you to do the guessing game and keep asking her what's wrong because she wants attention. Or she may think that you should know what's wrong because you said or did something she felt was wrong.
2007-01-26 05:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by veni*vidi*vici 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but this 'habit' is not unique to women... men AND women play this 'game'... if they feel insecure about someone's reaction to their issue... it becomes a game that plays out like...
"What's wrong, dear?" and you are met is "Nothing" as a response... but YOU know better, right? So, without playing Dr. Phil or the FBI... try and get her to open up... possibly you are close enough that you may actually have an idea about what she may be stressed with... so present it as a question "are you having troubles on your job?" or "is your mother bugging you again?" or "did it bother you that I came home so late last night?" (examples only).
Okay, so that is one scenerio... another is the "passive aggressive" approach... that what she is doing triggers in you the feeling that you want to think it is something you have done, or not doing something... that is causing her "discomfort"... wait a minute... that is way to "Dr. Phil" stuff...
I say you just open up to her and let her know what YOUR FEELINGS ARE... that you feel that "something is wrong with your baby" but she won't let you know what it is so you can't help her unless she TELLS you what it is... and that you are there to help... not to hurt.
Been there myself, my friend.. and it was not with a woman... like I said... men play the same card as well.
Much luck to you... I know it is not easy... but if you care enough... you will not let her play that game.
2007-01-26 05:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by wonderful1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do this b/c usually it hurts my feelings and i don't want to feel vulnerable, and it's usually something petty and i don't want him to think that I've made a big deal out of nothing. IE, i dont' want to look like a big baby. lol
but my friend shasta says that guys are stupid and they can't tell if something is really wrong or not.
2007-01-26 05:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by DiG iT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause they love to confuse men..that's why! When they say no, it means yes...when they say nothing is wrong, it means something is not right....love testing the guys all the time juz to find out how caring n understanding the guy is, end of the day, break-up happens....all cause by them.
2007-01-26 05:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by DooGie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Y ask wen u know something's wrong,y not just solve it,i dont have to repeat my self wen u already know,
2007-01-26 05:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by lady x 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes it's like walking on egg shells, if you speak out a volcano might erupt which could make the situation worse.
2007-01-26 05:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by BFCP 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋