When I said, "He'll grow up to be a thicko, and besides, it's illegal", he got in a right strop, got out of the car and slammed the door.
Was I out of order? Should I report him? What would you do?
2007-01-25 20:45:01 · 19 answers · asked by Snowth 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He's just sent me a text that says:
"Sorry, next time Mike wants a day off I'll ask your permission. Go take your medication!"
Honestly it's like Eastenders.
2007-01-25 20:54:10 · update #1
----Text messages sent 26/1/07-----
Me 9.16am: 30 going on 13
Mart 9.46am: Sorry, next time Mike wants a day off I'll ask your permission, go take your medication!
Me 9.47am: Calm down dear. Maybe you've got low blood sugar
(no response)
Me 9.58am: What's your email address?
(no response)
Me 10.06am: Not talking to me? I can think of more important things to fall out over. I just wanted to send you the link to the rules of squash. You only need one foot in the serving box, not your whole body
Mart 2.22pm: When's your next book out? You can call it "two days with me, I'll sort 'em out". I won't be buying it.
Me 2.32pm: ? You've lost me. Sorry if I seemed to be having a go.
(no response)
Me 2.42pm: You shouldn't really get angry at me though, I'm on your side. Just tell me to mind my own business, I can take it :)
Mart 2.26pm: Can I have your permission to take MY kids out tomorrow? Or will the police come and get us?
2007-01-26 02:44:01 · update #2
Me 2.47pm : Wow you can hold a grudge for a long time, eh
Mart 2.48pm: My moods don't change by the hour, like yours. You should think before you open your mouth.
Me 2.50pm: Do you get in a strop with everyone that dares to have a different opinion?
(no response)
Me 3.07pm: When 2 adults have differences of opinion, the usual thing to do is to talk it out until a compromise is reached, I have to do this all the time at work. What I DON'T do is lose my temper like a little spoilt girl. Text me when you think you're ready to join the adult world.
Mart 3.13pm: Think I'd rather be 13 than 70. Fact. You will not tell me how to being up my kids. End of subject. My phone is now off
Me 3.13pm: Whatever
2007-01-26 02:44:20 · update #3
i would leave him to it what he does with his child is only his business,unless he is harming the kid which he is not then let him get on with it, a day off school is not that bad!!
2007-01-26 01:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One time? It is a frivolous thing to keep the child out of school for. But one time is not the end of the world. I personally think it isn't a bad thing to have one or two unexplained absences from school, like if I want to take my son to a particular event.
I would not make a habit of it and it would be limited to no more than two times in a school year. So while I think taking the kid to the gym was kind of silly maybe some of it was to have some "bonding" time with the child.
Thank you "she" , one day is not going to make the kid a thicko.
2007-01-26 07:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of fighting with him and letting him just get by. Some have to learn the hard way. Give him a copy of the law and the consequences for his kids not being in school.
Sure the gym is fun, but it is not an excuse to miss school.
No, someone has to say something.
Tell him your meds are fine and yes, he should ask someone before he does something that stupid because he obviously isn't mature enough to make decent decisions for his family.
Keep up keeping up..it's hard to be right...but when you are stick to your guns, at least you won't have to worry how to sleep at night. That's his problem.
2007-01-26 06:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow - that's pretty irresponsible of your brother. what does the kid's mum think about all this ? does she know? there is no reason why your brother should feel it necessary to take his son to the gym during school hours. those places are open after school and on weekends, as i'm sure u know. i totally agree with your reaction to this, i'm pretty sure i'd have said something too. it sounds like your brother needs to grow up a bit, his reaction was rather childish. (it also shows that he's angry because he knows u are right. people don't usually react like that if they have a clear conscience !) not much you can do about it all really. if it's just happened the once, then i'd let it go, but if he keeps doing it then yes, i would report it to your nephew's school. just be prepared for your brother to go nuts with u if that does happen ! lol - and i sympathise with the 'Easterners' reference - i feel like that about my family too sometimes - although my boyfriend's family is worse - they're more like something off the Jerry springer show !
2007-01-26 05:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were not out of order. It's irresponsible of your brother. He's teaching his son that he can skip school simply because he doesn't feel like going or if he decides he'd rather be doing something else.
I don't think you should report him, howver. If his son's absences become a problem, the school will take care of it.
Where I live, you can actually have to go to court if your child misses too many school days.
2007-01-26 05:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He could take the child to the gym outside school hours? Personally I think gyms are places for adults, and children should keep fit through fun sporty activities. Health is just as important as education, but he'd be better off taking the kid to play football after school. I think you're right to put your point across, try and give your brother other options to keep his child fit & healthy... It might sink in!!
2007-01-26 04:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by rollacoasta 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are in the right, but don't bother reporting him, he will know it was you and will just create more bad feeling, if he got a strop on, that's just because he knew you were right, and shows what a small minded prick he is, don't bother yourself, let him get on with it.
2007-01-26 05:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't report him but I do think he is out of order. If he makes a habit of this he is not doing his son any favours at all. It really makes me mad when parents let their kids stay off school for trivial reasons. They are not helping their child they are just making it more difficult for them. The child gets behind with their school work and finds it hard to catch up. If thats what he wants to do, let him get on with it, he'll have himself to blame in the long run.
2007-01-26 04:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by deelightuk2004 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i think you was right to say something to him it might make him think next time No don't report him if it get into a regular thing then do something but not on something that could just be a 1 time thing
2007-01-26 06:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right. I wouldn't report him though, you will make things worse. Let the school sort it out because they will if it continues. Sorry to say it but he sounds an a*se. My brother is too.
2007-01-26 04:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by jeeps 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't report him to the school, if they are on the ball they should approach him themselves if the child has too many absences.
I agree though, it is stupid and irresponsible, what kind of message is he passing on to the child? What a pity, 'cause it's the child himself who will end up suffering in the long run.
2007-01-26 04:52:26 · answer #11 · answered by lululaluau 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋