People - why are they so quick to judge?

Question

third time lucky getting this to post!! Ok basically I bumped into an old school friend during the week and we went to go for a catch up over a coffee. Whilst there I got a text from a friend of mine who had seen us asking what I was doing with him - did I need glasses - she obviously thought we were on a date - it got me thinking though - if I had been on a date with him Id have been really hurt by what she'd implied!! We often see really attractive people on dates with lesser attractive partners - but Id never realised that their mates would go so far as actually SAYING it!!! Just wondering what your guys opinions are on this - would you say it to your friend - have you -...

No troubled Joe - Im not blowing my trumpet - I asked a question - as per usual people like you jump to conclusions finding an ulterior motive to the question asked.

Answer 1

Your friend is one shallow girl, with an unjustifiably high opinion of herself.

Answer 2

I understand what you are saying and if you had have been on a date with this guy your friends comments would have been very hurtful. Glad you have realised that looks do not mean a thing it is the person within, perhaps that is why a lot of marriages go sour because all "younger" people seem to go only by looks, and they do not make for a better person. I would not say that comment to anyone as I do know better but perhaps I would have thought it a few years ago before I grew up. Good luck.

Answer 3

No way would i say something like that to a friend...
firstly because I am no oil painting myself .. and secondly because I don't judge a book by it's cover.

If she is shallow enough to only consider BEAUTIFUL people are date material ..maybe she deserves to end up with some hunky guy that treats her like shyte

Also beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. and some people look deeper than appearances..

Answer 4

I myself am not all that desirable. People that judge someone solely on how they look are shallow and inconsiderate. Personally, I really do believe that what's on the inside is what matters.

If all people were like this, I would have never been on a date. Not really, I think I'm average looking, but I'm just trying to drive home the point.

Answer 5

Its our society,I have a shaved bald head,many people say,ya know what john ur ok,,,wadda ya mean ok,well how you look,big man aggressive.
judging people b4 they have even spoken.
seems the British way Is people want to see you in the gutter,to say aye have you heard about john,or guess what Sarah's been doing.
sigh not interested.
m8s are few & far between Pamela,what business was it for her to send you a text anyway.I myself Pam like to give them something to talk about,I have a concrete business and people keep asking me how I can afford a new jaguar,I keep telling them I robbed a bank,but I fare the police know it was me.
do these people think I was walking down the street and someone says here john,have this £50000.

I don't give a cr@:p what people say about me,I have my best friend at that's my Mrs.I hurt nobody,and ask of nobody,seems sad thats how our society has become.
can you remember years ago when .u needed friend for a cup of sugar,and we left the doors open.
today is im alright jack who cares.
We are all equal,and we all get one shot at life,enjoy it,make the most of what you got,be happy and fare.
most off all keeps smiling Sarah.
regards
john ツ

Forgotten something else,Next time you seen you so called friend,say to her WOW Haven't you put on lots of weight...?

Answer 6

Its sad but people do it all the time. They dont realise how hurtful it can be to either have it said to you or about you! At the end of the day though all the matters is two people being together cos they want to. Its about being happy, people will always judge for somthing!

Answer 7

How awful....the poor man, I know he did not know about the comment but I still feel sad for him. I think people just think they have a right to say things like that to their friends, I hope you sent her a text back saying "None of your business", I suppose on a very shallow level people could perceive beauty as being "good" and ugly as "evil" and perhaps that is how your friend thinks. perhaps have a quiet word with her and say that she needs to broaden her mind and accept that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that she has not right to be so critical.

Answer 8

You sometimes see someone in the street and think to yourself what on earth does she see in him. I would never say it to anyone though especially to a friend, unless I felt they needed a warning about something and might get hurt. Just because someone isn't good looking doesn't mean they're not nice people.

Answer 9

I would NEVER say anything like that to a friend. That is incredibly rude and disrespectful. She doesn't sound like a very nice friend to me.

Unfortunately as I get older I am convinced that today's society is obsessed with appearance over substance, and I think that is incredibly sad and depressing. Whatever happened to "Its what's inside that counts"?

I would mess with her head a bit though, and tell her that you are madly in love and planning to get married to this guy....see if that makes her feel guilty!

Answer 10

In this example, its pretty much a charge of juvenile behavior going unchecked. Its completely normal to make judgments of other people, most of the time they're merely opinions we keep to ourselves.

While your mate opened her mouth and promptly stuck her foot in it, she probably didn't even realize how uncouth her remarks were.

Sometimes, people need a reminder to mind their manners. Hopefully, they'll get over themselves and learn to speak with more grace.

Thanks for posting the question! =)

Answer 11

In my earlier immature years I would have said it was cool to downgrade somebody on their looks. Now I know that the old cliche still exist that inner beauty and self can be just as important or more so than outer.