i realize that i'm falling for a lot of mediocre guys
i never had a boyfriend before although i'm 15 and i think i'm falling too quickly for anyone even looking at me. i don't know why i have this pointless love for boys. i mean i don't like them, i love them without them loving me back
is this normal?
2007-01-25 20:21:36 · 13 answers · asked by gabriella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no stupid answers please
2007-01-25 20:22:45 · update #1
It's normal. It's hormonal. You're craving male attention. It's not really love. You're ok and completely normal. I know it feels very strong and real, but it will pass. . . especially when you discover guys are generally pigs when it comes to a girl's feelings.
2007-01-25 20:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off sweetie you need to stop throwing that word around. Love isn't something that you feel for every Tom, Dick, or Harry that glances your way. You are attracted to them without them liking you back. Not love. You're young but that's no excuse. It's normal to be attracted but the right one will come along that one you will love an only him. Second you're still young you're only 15 it's okay if you've never had your first boyfriend yet. Give it time. Make lots of guy friends and go on lots of dates, have fun. You're only 15. Good luck sweetie!
2007-01-26 04:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gabriella,
There is nothing wrong with wanting to love, and to be loved. That is a perfectly normal thing. But I think, honestly, you're missing a step here, ok? Let me explain.
Sometimes in the "pursuit" of love, our feelings tend to overwhelm us to the point where we are not making sound judgements. When you settle for just anyone, meaning either the first one who comes along, or the first one who looks at you, you are not getting to know that person or finding out if he is really right for you. That desire to be loved and needed is overriding that important step that you must take.
So many women, with the desire to be loved, settle for anyone who shows them the least bit of kindness or affection. They come to find out later that this person may be abusive towards them, both mentally and physically. There are men who prey on women who are that way. I know, I'm an ex-cop who has seen the end result.
Please, take your time and be selective about who you give your feelings to. Get to know a person thoroughly before you ever give him that most precious thing you possess, your heart. I certainly don't want you to get into a bad or dangerous situation just because you allowed your feelings to overwhelm you.
Give your heart to the right person, the one who is meant to have it. To settle for less, you are missing out on the very best.
I wish you joy and happiness.
2007-01-26 05:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only fifteen and what you are thinking is 'love' is simply your hormones 'going wild' ... and yes, it is both 'natural' and 'normal' for you to have these feelings, but it is not 'natural' or 'normal' if you are trying to 'act' on them at your age. I fell in love with 'lots of boys,' when I was your age, from 'movie stars' to the boy who sat next to me in English class. I got over it ... and I finally met the 'man of my dreams' (the man of my LIFE) when I was 46 years old and divorced ... and we have now been married for ten years, and will be married 'forever and in Heaven' ... so give yourself some time, my dear ... and 'date' but don't 'do it' until you are old enough to have learned what TRUE LOVE really means.
2007-01-26 04:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal, your hormones are kicking in and you are starting to grow feelings for the opposite sex, this feeling you are getting is not love, one day you will experience love on a deeper level, this feeling you getting is a crush. Dont do anything stupid cause you think you "love" someone, wait for that someone special. Good luck.
2007-01-26 04:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by John Biting 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love? I'm 50 and still lust after many women I see, maybe what you're experiencing is a normal part of life for a maturing female...a fascination for the opposite sex.
2007-01-26 04:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal for a teenagers but I think you should concentrate on your studies now and don't let your parents down. They will be hurt as they are paying your bills. You should fall in love when you start paying your bills. I will tell this to my daughter too.
2007-01-26 04:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by Cakebread 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol its natural for teenage girls to be like that they just want to have someone love them or someone to love them back. Don't worry but also don't put yourself out there your still young and deserve to be treated with respect.
2007-01-26 04:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are obviusly looking for something other than love..... you are asking for trouble, you should try falling in love with your school work and keep your head in the books. at least until you are 17....you dont have long to go.
2007-01-26 04:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't love them, you are infatuated with them. And these types of crushes are very normal for your age.
2007-01-26 04:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋