My only brother who is 9 yoa younger than me is getting married and I have not been asked to be in the Wedding. The girl he is getting married to has asked her Brother to be in the wedding. But I feel like I have just totally been left out. What should I do???
2007-01-25 20:19:54 · 12 answers · asked by LadyBug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't see what the big deal is. Have you been invited to the wedding shower or the bachelorette party? Sometimes men don't think. Seeing how the Bride picks most of the girls out for the wedding party. I don't think its your brothers fault. Plus its their big day not yours. The last thing you want to do is start something and blow it out of the water. Just put on your best dress and smile and sit at the front and give your very best. Cause in the long run. Friends will come and go. But you get the best out of them both. Family times. Holidays and even being the aunt! So, don't sweat it. I know easier said than done. But in the yrs that pass by. You will get over it.
2007-01-25 20:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by darlingnicky772 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't get "asked" to a wedding (unless you live in a trailer with no Postal address) you get an invitation. If you are immediate family, you sure as hell better be more than invited, you should be a big part of the entire event. If you have not been involved in other family affairs for some reason, then there's obviously a reason for being treated the same way for a wedding.
2007-01-26 04:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about such a difficult situation. Are there troubles in your family that might lead to this? Given the wide age gap between you, he may not feel as close to you as his fiancee does to her brother. Or possibly she might not want you in the wedding for some reason. Does she have a lot of female attendants, and they're worried about the balance of the sides?
If you feel comfortable doing so, discuss the matter with your mother, who might know more about the situation than you do. If that's not possible, bring it up to your brother as gently as you can. While it's hard to imagine a reasonable cause for their decision, I assume they must have one. The sooner you find it out the sooner you can start healing from this slight.
2007-01-26 04:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mysterious Gryphon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would feel grateful that I don't have to have all of the stress of having to serve as anything. Just the fact that I could attend and be supportive instead of being involved in all of the drama of the day would make me sleep better at night.
If you really want to be in the wedding, casually ask if there is anything you can do to help. If you're not needed, count your blessings.
2007-01-26 05:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personally... I am sure it wasn't meant that way.
If you make a stink about this you are just going to come out looking bad. It is their wedding and they have their reasons for choosing who they did.
You can't have everyone that you know and love in the ceremony... that gets a little out of control
Just be happy for your brother and let it go.
You will get to enjoy the wedding from the audience and won't have to deal with all of the bridezilla issues!
2007-01-26 04:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get drunk at the wedding and embarrass the whole family.
2007-01-26 11:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by steemshovel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you mean you arent invited, or you dont play a crucial role. if its the latter i would just be glad you get to see your brothers happiest moment. but if the former, i would just ask if you can go. maybe your invite got lost in the mail, or maybe they messed up the address or something.
2007-01-26 04:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by flamemaster_lang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you hv a fight?if yes, you should reconcile.show up for the wedding to let him know you gave him your blessing.
2007-01-26 04:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by anol b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, it's not that big a deal.
Do you REALLY want to wear a peach colored dress with a butt bow?
2007-01-26 04:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just send them a greeting and wish them happy life and sit in a quite place and pray for them
2007-01-26 04:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by un_1000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋