was in a grocery store and some tickle freak kept teasing me...i think this person was "special" so I didn't want to hurt his feelings...unfortunately th customer in front of me couldn't find their debit card,...etc...I was humiliated and kinda angry....nobody would rescue me from this guy, and i couldn't make a quick exit...i am not the type to cause a scene...well, maybe sometimes...i won't be going back to that store anytime soon!
2007-01-25 19:43:55 · 20 answers · asked by some normal person 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I work with people with disabilities for a living and sometimes they do not know what is or is not appropriate, but that does not mean no one should tell them. You can quietly and politely say, "I do not want you to tickle me." If he does not stop, ask him again more firmly or switch lines.
2007-01-26 07:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can visualize this happening while I happened to be on the sidewalk around the park across the street. If a total stranger started tickling me, I'd squeal and sink to the grass while laughing wildly and "accidentally" kicking off my flip flops before noticing that it wasn't my friend Y tickling me. At that point, depending on the reading my Tickledar gave me, I'd either blow my whistle, yell a patently insincere, "Stop!" or ask for more.
2016-05-24 01:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with Wisegirl, you can still tell someone with a disability that you don't appreciate something. No need to yell and cause a scene, just tell him in a normal tone of voice, often it'll work if they are 'normal' enough to go to the store by themselves. If they really look hurt say you just don't like it but try to chat about something innocent like the weather or sports, so they don't feel like *they* are inappropriate after you told them that one action was....
I doubt you'll have to avoid the store unless you're in a very small town, odds are pretty low you'll run into him again and if you spot him in the store, make sure you pick a different line!
2007-01-28 02:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at 6' 7" and 260 lbs.
I can't say that I've had the experience
and it's probably evident why not !!!
But, this person is out and about in public
and even if they are "special" ---there are standards
This would have been the perfect place for a "tough love encounter"
and you might have been saving some other person-- maybe even a much more serious violation of the rules by taking a stand against it-- it was wrong-- even if the individual was brain dead !!!
2007-01-25 19:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That sounds uncomfortable. A stern "what are you doing?" might help. Or maybe a "Do I know you?" Something to show you can assert yourself but at the same time doesn't demolish the person (unless they're completely all-there, at which point, just demolish them for being so inappropriate).
2007-01-25 22:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was it the stores fault YOU were in line behind someone who couldn't find their debit card? Was it the store's fault that this "tickler" was behind you in line? I wold say the answer to both question was no so why are you going to bascially boycott the store? What YOU should have done was turn around and tell the person behind you that you did not enjoy being "tickled" and to please stop". That would have brought the attention of the cashire to you and your "dilema" and maybe altered him/her to the fact that there was a potential problem. By not saying anything you allowed the problem to continue and that was YOUR fault. Don't blame the store for YOUR failure.
2007-01-25 20:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
If the person was retarded I would have moved. Change lines and move away from the person. He doesn't know what he is doing and he sees nothing wrong with it. Therefore your best course of action is to move. However, if he wasn't retarded he would get a knuckle sandwich in a hurry.
2007-01-25 22:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by tjinjapan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I think that I would let him know that he shouldnt be touching strangers, especially if he was "special", they get enough "crap" from society, I wouldnt want to hurt his feelings. I would just ask him to please stop tickling me and hope that he understood.
2007-01-25 19:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by Deana F 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the person was "special", ask them nicely to stop and then you would have to ask a store employee to intervene if they did not stop.
2007-01-26 05:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kabu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would turn and ask if he would like to be a guest for dinner. I would then smile and say I think he would be quite the treat with the mint sauce you are purchasing!
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-01-25 19:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋