She dumped me, then started calling me two weeks after. Still wouldn't meet with me but kept calling me. It was driving me nuts. Its been going on for a week. I saw her tonight and she still acted cold. I finally asked her tonight why she contacted me last week. Why is she calling me? All she said was she doesn't know what she wants. I said I need to move on with my life and she snapped and told me that she doesn't want anyone waiting for her and that I should do my thing. I said I would and had no idea what she was talking about since I was the one saying I should move on if she doesn't want to be with me. Did I do the right thing here? If I hadn't said anything would she have made me a friend? Should I have played it cool and just not answer her calls or do you think she will contact again? What the hell is going on here?
2007-01-25 19:42:51 · 12 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your ex obviously does not know what she wants, she doesn't know if she wants to be with you or if she doesn't. And for her to make this decision, it will take a while for her to sort her head out and think it through properly, and you'd have to wait for her, for her to make her decision so that basically she can click her fingers and you stay and go, which is what she meant when she said she didn't want you to wait around for her.
If i were you, i'd move on, you don't wanna put your life on hold for her to make her decision, you need to think about what you want as well, don't think of anyone else in this situation, just yoruself because you don't want to have her suddenly say "i want you back" and for you to have to come running back, live your own life, move on and just hang out with mates for a while, take it slow and see what happens naturally.
Good luck.
2007-01-25 19:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by Yellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she's messing with your head. If she dumped you and then says she's confused, she should have said that while you two were together. She had her chance now it's time for you to make room for new women. Don't answer her phone calls, you can't be friends with someone you've been in a relationship with. It'd never work. You're doing the right thing, move on and leave her with all her problems. Good luck sweetie!
2007-01-26 03:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she still can't decide on what she wants then that means she doesn't really still want to be with you. She would know for sure that she wants to be with you if you were meant to be. Just like you know that you don't want to and would like to move on. As soon as you get a girlfriend I bet she'll start saying what a mistake she made in dumping you just because it sounds like she plays games.
I think you definitely need to move on. Maybe avoid talking to her just so you don't have to deal with her post break up problems. You broke up, therefore you shouldn't have to deal with eachother anymore.
2007-01-26 03:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is screwed up and you don't need to put up with that. Move on like you told her. Let her find her own way. I wouldn't answer her calls again. You will find someone a lot better than her.
2007-01-26 03:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. She sounds a bit confused (or crazy). You were right to ask her why she was calling you, it was weird how she snapped at you though. I think you should take her advice though and "do your thing".
Move on. She wasnt good enough for you.
Hope this helps
2007-01-26 03:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! She was only doing that to keep you on the string for when she decided what it was that she did want. You deserve better than that. Keep on keeping on and don't look back. Let her deal with her indecision's on her own with someone else that will play her little games.
2007-01-26 03:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ok calm down....lol.. listen its over..just dont answer her calls because like u said she doesnt know what she wants and why waste ur time being with a child.forget her for playing around with ur heart...looked go out to clubs meet a girl there and everything will be forgotten. and dont get back with her because she might do it again. quit playing around.
2007-01-26 03:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by OOOYEA! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read through your other questions and you've got it bad babe. she s playing with you. seems to me like she likes someone else but she doesn't know how its gonna go with him so she wants to keep you on the back burner. don't do this to yourself. there are so many other people out there. get out and have fun. you don't need to be playing her stupid games. try and pretend she doesn't exists and don't answer her calls or return her texts.
2007-01-26 03:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very immature you did the best thing,just move on and next time be a little more choosey
2007-01-26 03:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by JOHN D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's just messing with your head. you should just ignore her and move on. good for you!
2007-01-26 03:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋