He says he wants me and loves me but doesn't want to plan anything big.Three months relationship and we're crazy about each other. Everytime we're around each other we can't get enough of each other. He wants sex but i want him to wait, eventhough he thinks that it's nonesence. He is 29 and i think at some point he wants me to be next to him but he is scared of losing his singleness. He has a lot of friends and none of them have a stable relationships and i think by just looking at them he think it's the right way to be. I also think that he's scared of change but he doesn't know that the change might benefit him. Anyway i want serious things with him and want him to make up his mind. And my question is should i just be direct with him about me wanting more out of relationship or should i just give him some more time to get to know me better
2007-01-25 19:25:20 · 11 answers · asked by blue5349 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he just want 2 use u n u have been very lucky that u havent submitted ur self
if he dont see any future with u then wat r u looking for...sweetheart its not true love
true love dont demands anything physical..i guess u r very innocent yet very intelligent that u said that u wanna wait,i just wanna congrates u for this
dump him he is just trying 2 use by hitting u emotionally..dont let ur self to be traped coz its not love...i m telling u thi from my personal experience...me n my bf [now fiance] r together from past 5 years n trust me honey he never tried 2 be physical with me,all he wanted is just hugs n tender kisses till now
just dump ur guy n find some really nice guy for u..i dont know u but i can judge that u r such a sweet gal who deserves much much more decent n responsible man...wait for the right guy
i just want good for u bcoz being female i know the dignity of women
so i WARN U -go 4 break off [n u know that u gonna do right ]
look so many people have suggested u same thing....brain of 1 person can access wrong but most of us saying same thing for ur good future
n before taking any decision atleast think about ur parents n sibbling's love n faith on u
good luck
2007-01-25 19:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by stunning.sheena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only three months into the relationship? I would be more patient and let the relationship develop more. He's probably right about not wanting anything "big" at the moment. It's better to enjoy the moment, each other's company, and that way you can better build into the next stage of your relationship. I don't know how old you are, but since he's 29, he may want more of a serious commitment from you, including sex. Let things proceed and don't worry about the future so much. Take it day-to-day and enjoy what you have.
2007-01-25 19:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if he loved you like he said you wouldn't even have to had said anything. You need to move on. Forget about him, but to give him one last chance, be direct. Tell him to make a decision now not later, you can't wait. If it's love he should have no problem, and if he's single just because of his friends that means he's impressionable in which case you'd be wasting your time anyway. If his friends had serious relationships he'd be with you, but the moment they got out of them so would he. All he wants is sex, if he loved you he'd respect that. He thinks that if he keeps holding off committing to you then you'll eventually have to sleep with him. Leave him fast before you fall deeper. Right now it's just infatuation, not love. Move on sweetie you deserve so much better. It's not stupid to make someone wait for your body, it's reserved and smart. Leave him alone. Good luck sweetie and whatever you do, don't cave. Find someone else.
2007-01-25 19:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 08:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want commitment "with you". He'd be quite happy with sex and he'll probably leave you. Keep holding out for the right man, someone who'll love you enough to respect your wishes.
2007-01-25 19:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he want, Casual sex on his terms.
Dont sell yourself short, wait for the right man to come along. Good Luck!!
2007-01-25 19:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by pinky.p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's saying he loves you just so he can get the chance to get in your pants. if he truly wants to be with you then it shouldn't be hard for him to want a "committed" relationship with you. the only reason he doesn't want commitments is becuz he's just looking to get some sex from the relationship. be careful.
2007-01-25 19:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has made up his mind already. He just wants you for sex.
Move on and find someone who will commit. Its not worth the agony. Giving him more time is giving him more time to pressure you for sex, and wasting your time.
2007-01-25 19:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tumbleweed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand him better.
Check his personality.
http://www.wishafriend.com/quiz/personality/
and your relationship with him.
http://www.wishafriend.com/quiz/relationships/
Good luck.
2007-01-25 20:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by manjari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful madam!
Acc. to the description of him, by you,
he doesn't seem transparent to me.
Patience
And don't you submit.
2007-01-25 19:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by vivian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋