I just met her then a few days later her former fiancé "committed suicide". I was there for her and then it turns out it was a prank and when she found out she broke it off with him. A few days later she told me she loved me and dreamed of me. I told her I just wanted to be friends because I wasn't sure if I was ready for a relationship. She told me she would never love anyone ever again so I tried to convince her otherwise because I did want to be more then friends, but I didn't tell her that and I felt it was too soon. We would talk everyday for hours for a month and I felt we were getting pretty close. She worked as a live-in housekeeper and got sick of her former boss harassing her so she moved in with a new guy and ended up falling in love with him within a week. I told her that was too fast and I had a breakdown when I found out because I had these feelings. A month later she's engaged to the new guy. I can't stop thinking about her sometimes and I don't know what to do.
2007-01-25 19:12:37 · 7 answers · asked by Green 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely,it's the best thing you can do.Forget about her and look for someone, who, more than anyhing else in the world deserves you.The friend you're talking about does not seem to suit your personality.And no woman could immidiately forget a bitter experience that fast,then engaging in another relationship in just a span of day's.And since she has found someone who'm they are now engage,you better open up for a new relationship and find another woman who's personality is the one you think is best.
2007-01-25 19:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say that you have to be commended for being a true friend to this woman. You're an admirable man. Now that said I have to let you know exactly the reason why you are not with this woman that you love. You became her friend. I can understand that you were not ready for a relationship at the time she professed her "love" for you but the mistake that you made was not keeping yourself out of the "friend zone" just in case your feelings changed later on. You became a shoulder to cry on and a confidante to her and in doing so her romantic intentions and seductive instincts were changed into friendly feelings. You should have allowed sexual tension and flirtations between the both of you to continue to simmer, but now the soup is cold and she has found a new hot bowl of chicken soup so to speak. Never allow yourself to be put in the "just a friend basket" It doesn't matter if you are ready for a new lady or not, if you know a woman and you consider her a friend, but at the same time you can see yourself being her mate, by all means continue to flirt and let her know that she is a potential mate regardless. You don't have to use words, your actions will let her know that there is still a chance at romance. If she likes you back she will be willing to wait, if you turn into the good ole nice guy friend type, that is usually where you will stay. Keep yourself in a seductive state of mind 24/7. She already has girlfriends for moral support. Let them do their job and you do yours. Don't ever make that mistake again.
P.S. This woman with all do respect seems to suffer from a serious case of low self esteem. She leaves her fiance and tells you she loves you within week. You become a confidante instead of a potential partner so she goes and gets another fiance after knowing him for just a month. Think about what you have written. Is this the type of woman that you want to bear your children? Someone so gullible and naive. The best thing you can do is suppress those feelings you have for her and move on. BTW when she leaves this guy you will be the first one she will call for a rescue. I guarantee it. Move on for your own good. Hope this helps you.
2007-01-26 03:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie you have one of two options, you can keep your feelings inside and risk losing her forever or you can tell her how you feel and see if she still feels that way. She fell in love way to fast, though it can take one day for you to fall in love with someone. You're friend seems love crazy. It seems like she's more in love with the idea of being in love than love itself. Tell her how you feel about her and that it's a mistake to marry someone she barely knows. If she marries him, move on, but you'll never know until you tell her. Don't wait. This could be something that could change both your lives forever. Just don't wait until she's married to realize you still love her. Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-26 03:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it and move on. She still has her track shoes on and likes running too much. She's a floater. Go out and find yourself another girl because this one will be difficult to pin down.
Sorry...
2007-01-26 03:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. Whatever happens you won't go back to that particular part of your life and ask what if? There will be no regrets if you tell her now. Ever seen the movie my first wedding?
2007-01-26 03:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Shai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes got engaged to somoen else this means your too late, forget about her, youhad a chance an you blew it let it be. Find someone else.
2007-01-26 03:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by Louy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To for get her , first you dont think of other things,
because they are bad,just concentrate on your workings seriously and make it count for your success for your work.its enough to for get her .
understand what i am saying and bussy with our work
don't think about that persone (even her name0).ok.
2007-01-26 03:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋