Okay I am currently with this girl I just started dating about 5 months ago,she is now 4 months pregnant by me, I know it sounds strange, but it happened and I can't change it now. She's 20, and I'm 19, she has told me I'm the 2nd guy she has ever had sex with besides her ex-boyfriend. BTW, we work on the same job together, I do stock work and she works the cash register in a retail store, btw we met at work. I recently heard a rumor that some guy in her department that like her and she claims she always turned him down so he lies about having sex with her before hoping it gets back to me and we break up, he always wanted her and wanted us to break up, but she wants me. Anyways I recently heard a rumor that she slept with him in the past, but I asked her and she denied it, and she even said she went to him and asked him why is he lyin and tellin people these lies. Though I didnt see her ask him, she even swore on her brother grave it didnt happen what should I believe? any opinion
2007-01-25 18:54:12 · 12 answers · asked by GRS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SHE LOVES YOU AND IS PROVING THAT BY HAVING YOUR BABY...Jealousy can be a very very troublesome thing coming from others ... DONT WORRY SOUNDS LIKE MAYBE YOU SHOULD BELEIVE HER...
2007-01-25 19:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Christy Davies 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe you could talk to this guy and ask about the so called sexual encounter. Or you could believe your girlfriend. I think the best thing to do is just forget about it. If it was supposed to have happened before you and her were together, then why does it even matter to you. I know one thing for sure, that people will lie their asses off to make trouble in someone else's relationship. I was 20 when I had my first child and the dad was 18. Everyone tried to break us up and told lies on both of us to get us arguing. I think she does love you or she wouldn't be trying so hard to convince you that she didn't cheat on you. Give her a chance and maybe it will be the best thing you ever do in your life. Worry about your child being born healthy and take care.
2007-01-25 19:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cool Callie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off stop being so Gullable believing all these Rumors you are hearing ...Second of all You guys need to establish some Trust with each other and get over the he said she said or I heard this and that blah blah blah...Third of all THE PAST needs to STAY in the PAST (this means anytime she lived before meeting you like what she did with other guys ect.. It is of no consequence who cares ??? She is having YOUR BABY You are the one she spends her time with and devotes her love right?? Dont listen to Jealous Instigators from the outside ,,, You will never get anywhere in ANY relationship if you dont have honesty and trust of one another and just in case I would get a DNA test when baby is born just to be sure
2007-01-25 19:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by c d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You either believe her or not.Everyone has had apast including you.The best way to go with a relationship is to a void the past because it is very painful.Well,you say she is pregnant for you and you also say this other guy has always wanted this one girl,Do you know he may use anything just to make you part ways?What will you do if you found out that it is true he slept with her?will you abandon her?no,no you cant do that She loves you and it is you she loves.Lastly you shoudnt have slept with her especially without a protection because as you said and as i have said every one has had apast.Take good care of her,prepare for the child to come,and prepare to be afather.Take full resposibilty.You can do it and it will soon be cool.
2007-01-25 19:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by moe 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is my point of view as a female, so you can take it however you want:
I personally think it is REALLY personal for some one to ask some one else's sexual past. Girls and guys are not really judged the same at all. If guys take on a lot of girls, they are seen as "the man" or "experienced." If girls do it they are "whores" and "sluts."
Unless their past sexual history is causing you issues, I don't think people should ever ask that question. However in your case, her past sexual history MIGHT be the reason this problem is going on. If this persists, there are only 2 options. Get out of the relationship or talk to the guy yourself with HER there. If she has nothing to hide, she can talk to him while you are there. And get the stories straight once and for all!
2007-01-25 19:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you care?
None of this childish crap should matter, your going to be a dad.
Don't let stupid little rumors ruin your life.
You & her are going to have some kind of a relationship " forever" now. So, unless you want to lose your future family, id suggest you, stand by her through everything life brings your way. NO matter what it is.
2007-01-25 19:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by lvn_jb06 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have heard that men tend to lie to the upside and women to the downside about their past.. I think you are doing the right thing by being skeptical especially if you have only been with her 5 months.
2007-01-25 19:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately it sounds as if she could be lying.
I suggest you research deeper, don't give up easily when she denies (after all, just about ANYONE can deny... some even have an art at it).
Also get that DNA test done before you get married to her.
2007-01-25 19:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by Pure 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too late to worry now. You got her pregnant, so grow up and be a man. If you doubt it's your kid have a paternity test done.
2007-01-25 19:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i can't believe you are torn between listening to your GF and the rumors about her and this guy. who's side are you on? you are still immature. it seems you are really not yet ready to be her husband and be the father of her child. if she says that nothing happened between them then you have to believe her. show some support for your future wife.
2007-01-25 19:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋