My father has passed and wondering where and how much I include him. Does his name still go on the invite? Fiance & I are hosting and thinking of adding w/ the love & support of their parents Mr & Mrs. blank and Mr. & Mrs. Smith. Any suggestions for ideas on including my father appreciated.
2007-01-25 18:12:31 · 25 answers · asked by tiger4mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My Mom & fiance say to do what I feel is right. My mom is very supportive and he lives in our hearts. I just a Daddy's girl that wants him to be there.
2007-01-28 01:21:38 · update #1
my best friend did it... and his relatives were very respectful about it...
2007-01-25 18:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I've heard that it is not customary to mention a deceased parent's name in a wedding invitation... but I WOULD... it's SO RESPECTFUL.
In our culture, we mention it... it's a MUST.
< How to do it? >
You can say something like: In honor of...
Or check this out:
Wording for Wedding Invitations
For planning a wedding and handling the mention of a deceased parent, use the following wording for wedding invitations: "The son of Mrs. Jane Doe and the late Mr. John Doe" or "The son of Mrs. Jane and the late Mr. John Doe." Often when the deceased parent is listed first it could sound as if both parents are deceased (i.e. "The son of the late Mr. and Mrs. John Doe") Many people often find great comfort in honoring their parent´s memory by including a toast of remembrance during the reception. Also if a family member is hosting the wedding, it would also be appropriate to thank the guests for coming on behalf of both the living and the deceased parent (i.e. "On behalf of the memory of my late husband and myself, thank you all for coming") Or if a toast welcoming the bride to your family is going to be said, you can mention how proud the deceased parent would be of both of you today, etc.
2007-01-26 03:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by Serendipity 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a warm and lovely gesture to include him. Maybe phrased something like this:
With the loving support of their parents, Mr. and Mrs. Charles Blank and Mrs. Amanda Smith
and in loving memory of Mr. Alan Smith
2007-01-26 02:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by z 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would just put his parents as Mr. and Mrs Joe Brown and your mom as Mrs. Sue Green. After all she was married and it means more than Ms. Also, I'd add at the bottom something like "In loving memory of Bill Green" or you can chose to write your mother's name as Mrs. Bill Green. That might serve both purposes.
2007-01-26 16:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES by all means ADD your fathers name to the invitations I did it at mine and I know plenty of people who have as well ....
The Late Mr John Smith & Mrs Jane Smith .....and the Grooms parents name to follow.. and ALSO for the dance you would normally dance to with your Dad (They made an announcement before playing the song Mr John Smith is here with us in spirit tonight) and the Song came on it was "We are Family" and I danced with my Sister and Brother instead it was very touching .. I am So sorry about your Dad ,but he will be there 4 you in spirit... good luck on whatever you deceide and Congratulations!!
2007-01-26 02:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by c d 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You can say something like Lisa smith daughter or Mrs. smith and the late Mr. Smith invites you to....
2007-01-29 03:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can. You could say Mrs. and the late Mr. That is what I did. My dad passed in March of 1996. I am getting married in September. I order my invitations two weeks ago. I got them last friday and they are beautiful. I hope that I helped you out.
2007-01-26 05:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Charlotte H 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is appropriate if you want to include him in the wedding. I got married last year and we didn't include my father's name on the wedding invitation, but mentioned him in a toast on our wedding day. I also like the idea of having an empty chair as a way of showing he is remembered. Even though he is gone, he will still be there in spirit.
2007-01-26 03:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there are verses that don't even need parents names on them, check out invitation websites they have many verses available to choose from, mine don't have parents names on them. if your have programs include something like with loving memory or talk to you reverend about including something in the ceremony, they've done lots of weddings and are very useful in answering questions like that, you could also dedicated a song to him at the dance.
2007-01-29 21:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as obviously Mr. or Mrs. Smith cannot possibly request the honor of anyone's presence if they are not around to do so. This would be in extremely poor taste and show a lack of class and general etiquette. And to all who think it would be a sweet idea, it would not!
2007-01-26 06:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
On the invitation you are stating who you are and who your people are.
Please, if your relationship with your late father is worthy of your affections and respect, include him.
I know a couple who are planning their wedding.Each of them are over fifty and yes, they are including their late parents on the invitation.
This is who you are.
2007-01-26 07:11:43 · answer #11 · answered by logie ogie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋