My girlfriend has been saving every email that her ex sends her. She has been saving there im conversations also. I haven't asked her about it yet. She left her email open and I seen a folder with his name on it. It has all the messages from when they were together, and all of the ones they have been sending back and forth for the last two months. They broke up back in september, and we have been together since november. She has said that she misses him, and they do hang out on occasion. I don't know if I should be worried that she still has feelings for him or not. What should I be thinking? She has also slept with him since we have been together, which was just 3 weeks ago. She says she has no feelings for him, but they email and talk on the phone alot. What should I do?
2007-01-25 17:49:33 · 20 answers · asked by john 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetheart, you seem to have strong feelings for this woman and she is not respecting you. If she is your girlfriend, then she has no business emailing or talking on the phone to her Ex. That's why he is called "The Ex", she needs to leave him in her past and move on with you or go back to him and leave you alone. She can't have the best of both worlds because this will only create pain for you, her and her Ex. You are feeling the way you should be feeling, "Uncomfortable". You should tell her in a nice way, how you feel about the situation. You have to put your foot down, or she will continue to run all over you. I pray that she will put herself in your shoes and realize that she would not want you talking with your Ex. Take Care and God Bless. People will only do to you what you allow them to do. Take control of your life and honestly tell her how you feel.
2007-01-25 18:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by smiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"They broke up back in september, and we have been together since november"
Someone else also quoted something very obvious.
Shes still in love with this guy. Let her love him so it can be easier on you both. You cant make someone have feelings for you. Let her go and be with him. It sounds like the ex bf is using her the way she is using you. Stop this cycle.
2007-01-26 02:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be such a wussy, and leave her ***. If you can't do that, start saving all emails from your female friends and let her know that you're doing that. Or better yet, sleep with some of your ex's and see how she likes that. Us men get gad raps for being 'dogs' in relationships, but women aren't as pristine as they portray themselves to be. This sounds like my ex, she saved emails from her ex, and I read a few lines of one of them, and he left her for the same reason I did, and his email was from 6 years ago. I left her for the same exact reason, which tells me she'll never change.
2007-01-26 01:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by jasrlhals 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, it is hard to let go someone who we really love. have you ever loved someone so badly in ur life? then u will know what's she's going through right now. Tell her to take her time to think about it. if the guy wants her back then she has to make the decision. We can't force someone to love us. But here it seems like she is just using you to escape from her own fear. Leave her alone right now. If she was meant for you then she will come back. and if she doesn't the life is right there ahead of you. Good luck
2007-01-26 01:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by frozen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just leave her bcoz she dont loves u ..she loves her ex n i know even u can judge that
i know its paining but u r just a compromise for her
if she dont have any feelings then wats the need of any conversation..n she also slept with him,it simply shows that its a kind of double cross
there r sooooooooooo many gals in this world...better if u choose some 1 else ,who wud b more loyal for u
i know truth hurts but truth is a truth
bye n good luck
2007-01-26 02:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by stunning.sheena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the rebound man...................
Time to bounce her to the curb and move on.............
Read what you wrote.................
They still talk/email
she misses him
They slept together
You're not her new boyfriend. You're a distraction until the old boyfriend wants her back or dumps her again and she realizes it's really over.
Take a stand and find someone who can reciprocate your feelings not use you.
F-Y-I she treats you this way because you have let her......
You need to figure out why you let people use you!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-26 02:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by Susan C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh! You need to leave her alone and let her figure out her feelings *without you.* There are plenty of women who will devote themselves only to you and put all of their effort into the relationship. Your girlfriend obviously still has issues to work out-- this is not healthy for either of you!
2007-01-26 01:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by Lucid Dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be really slow... First of all your instincts are telling you something loud and clear but you are ignoring them or allowing yourself to be deceived. And she was with him 3 weeks ago? But she "says she has no feelings for him". Hm my guess is that she probably had some feelings for him that night. I would get rid of her pretty fast.
2007-01-26 01:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too obvious, isn't it? You shouldn't think twice. Leave her. I mean, I really don't know what else to say. Gosh... If you at least have some pride as a man, leave her from this second!
2007-01-26 01:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to go ahead and confront her with the situation....you didnt get in it to have an open relationship and it is definately not fair to you or your emotions and feelings...she is having cake and eating it too...you dont deserve that kind of treatment and that could scar you might another relationship with someone who truely appreciates you...she isnt over him and if she is still sleeping with him you should definately move on...doesnt sound like she respects her relationship with you...
2007-01-26 01:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by michele m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋