I'm a homeschooled teenage girl. How can I get a boyfriend?

Question

I'm homeschooled, and my parents wouldn't mind if I had a boyfriend. So, how do I meet boys?

Answer 1

Even though you're home-schooled, you can still take some classes at your local school (if you're close to one). You can take classes such as, art, and P.E., just to name a few. That would be one way to get to know some of the kids too. Maybe even find a boyfriend.

Answer 2

I was home schooled, then after eighth grade I attended a small private high school, which was a good transition. If you can't make the transition to school, I suggest a couple of the following options. If those don't work, I would consider the public school guilty of discrimination because your parents pay taxes for that school just like everyone else, hence the reason other citizens are allowed to use public school facilities to play sports, have meetings, etc. It seems unjust to turn minors away from events without offering some kind of alternative, when they clearly can't help the situation. Here are my suggestions. 1. If you don't have a driver's license, get a non-license ID at the DMV. One my friends didn't get her driver's license till she was 22, so she had one of these. 2. Remember that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. I have often found that people don't allow things because they don't understand the circumstances. Find out who is in charge of ID's at your boyfriend's school, call that person, and explain the situation. Keep asking, be firm but polite. If you do talk to someone and the response is unhelpful, go to the next person. I would explain that this situation should be addressed not just for you but for future students who may be home schooled who would also have the same problem. Ask if another kind of ID would substitute for a school one. Ask if he/she can mail or email you a letter of permission so that you have evidence when you show up. 3. In terms of cheerleading, there are independent cheerleading leagues not affiliated with schools. See if there are any in your area, or more conveniently, see if you can join the squad of the public school you are districted to. I have heard of home schoolers playing on public school sports teams because their parents are paying taxes towards the school and technically public school is open to everyone. Plus, your parents are actually saving the other taxpayers money by not sending you there. Do you belong to a home schooling group? I played sports that way. See if there are other home schoolers who may want to start their own team. 4. See if any large home schooling groups have their own dances. I have heard of home schoolers all getting together and planning a prom. Remember that the school may be giving you a hard time because you have the label of being "home schooled." Educators tend to frown on home schooling and may not want to lend you a hand - which is even more reason to keep trying. If you are persistent and mature, maybe you will be able to find a solution together.

Answer 3

Other than the fact that I would like to answer the question "Who really needs a boyfriend anyway?" (which I could talk about for a really long time) I'll answer this.
Please, please, PLEASE don't blame not having a boyfriend on being homeschooled. I'm homeschooled, have a lot of friends who are either homeschooled or public schooled, and there really isn't any difference between the two types of friends with regards to dating. If you aren't involved in any types of activities, well, I'd have to say that it's your fault, not the fault of being homeschooled. I'm involved in more activities than most of my friends who are enrolled in high school. And *gasps* I don't have a boyfriend! That isn't because I don't know any guys, it's because I don't WANT one. That aside, there are many homeschool groups that you can join, and sports teams that are open to people who aren't in high school. Not to mention other things, like choirs, or book clubs, or debate clubs, or...well, pretty much anything. If you are set on getting a boyfriend (Have I mentioned that they're overrated anyway?) then you could get involved in any of those things. And if you go to church, you could meet guys there.
I would also like to point out that a lot of people meet their spouses randomly, like while out shopping, or through a friend, or through work. So there's always that.

Answer 4

Don't let people turn this into a "Well, if only you were in 'real' school, you'd have a boyfriend." sort of thing on you. There are plenty of girls and guys who've spent their entire academic career in public/private schools and not ever had an official boyfriend/girlfriend. For that matter, there are plenty of adults who struggle with this every day. And the advice for them applies to you as well:

If you feel that you're ready to start dating, you have to get out there. Follow the good recommendations others have posted here. Get involved in clubs or a church group or sports team or anything else that interests *you.* This will give you the best opportunity to meet boys who share your interest(s) - something that you want in a boyfriend, trust me.

Answer 5

You meet boys by doing things outside the house. Participate in sports, volunteering, community classes, homeschooling activites, get a job...

Why do you want to have a boyfriend? I remember my teen years clearly: people looking for boyfriends, having short-term relationships that ended in anger or in tears... The long-lasting relationships are usually the ones that happen when you're not looking.

Answer 6

Extra-curricular classes (karate, fencing, horseback riding - you know classes you would find boys in).

At the mall (talking to strange boys is great practice, but exercise great caution)

Find out if your local school district will allow you to attend their dances or sports teams (some do)

Your friends probably have brothers, so be friendly.

If you have kids your age in your neighborhood, be social there (go to parties, hang out, whatever)

Find out if there are any homeschooling co-ops in your area and when they get together. Maybe you'll find a homeschooled teenage boy who's looking for a girlfriend.

I hope this helps

Answer 7

try looking for a Co-Op or some kind of homeschool association that gets together. I'm homeschooled myself and i still go to my county's public school functions and met people that way. Also check with your school board and see if you can be involved with a public schools sports and other extra-curricular activities

Answer 8

Hey, I'm actually homeschooled myself, in my grade 11 year. I know how you feel, cause I'm on the other side of the spectrum- can't meet any girls. I'm gonna start going to my church youth group, there are lots my age there, and if you have something similar it would be a good place to start. I'd be happy to meet you somehow, although there'd have to be a stroke of luck involved location-wise (I'm in Canada) Anyway, feel free to PM me anytime if you feel like talking.

Answer 9

are you going to college? are you working? Do you attend social functions?

most guy professionals find their gf (later, wife) from work, church, and other social functions.

But remember, you don't want "just a boyfriend". so you start with large circles of friends. And people judge you by your circle of friends. Then you will get into a good relationship when you are relaxed and grounded and surrounded by good people.

BTW: boys will flock to flirts and easy girls, but men will enjoy the company of relaxed, grounded, and happy women.

Answer 10

i'm homeschooled. i just got out of a realationship of 1 year.. it's not hard, just go out, to parties around the neighbor hood, get involved in things.. that kind of stuff.. meet guys through friends.