Boyfriend/Family help?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years we live together. I do not like his Family cause they always try and cause problems between me and him. Example : his sister gave his ex gf my cell phone # He knew nothing about it but his sister did it cause she dont like me. His mom told me she could see me getting married but not her son ( my boyfriend) His dad tried to get him to cheat on me and leave me multipul times and even kicked me out of his house while me and my boyfriend was living there ( before we got our own place) His dad called me and told me that I needed to bring him groceries since he dont drive and to tell my boyfriend that he needed two new parts for his truck so for my boyfriend just to pay for it when at the time we was having money problems of our own. Now my boyfriend wants to go see his dad next weekend. And his dads gf will prlly be there. Her daughter will prlly be there also ( the one his dad tried to get him to cheat with ) I am not going to his dads.

I dont like his dad. And his Family is causing problems with me and him. Since I dont like his Family now hes starting crap about mine. What should I do ?

I did nothing to his Family I have always went out of my way and practially bent over backwards to help them. And when I try and talk to my man about it he just ignores me. He dont talk to his mom or sisters anymore but he does his dad and his Grandma. I have tried so much to make them see me for the fun nice person I am. I dont want him to give up his Family I want him to be around them. I want them to accept me. I treat my boyfriend like gold he is very spoiled by me. They just dont like me for some reason. His mom even had the guts to tell me that he loved his ex alot more than me. How rude. I just dunno what to do

I think his sister has a thing for him or something. She is a wh*re anyways. She has like 4 kids and she is a crackhead literally. And she dont know who the daddy of any of her kids are. Also about the other girl his dad tried to get him with. She has aids and sleeps with every guy she can. shes only 16 my boyfriend is about to be 26 I am 23 btw.

Answer 1

I just dont understand why his dad acts like that, why dont they like you? I mean did something happend?
Anywaysn, do not let them come b/w you and your boyfriend. If you really love him ( which I am sure you do ) do NOT let your happy life with him fall abpart because of his family. The family will let it go once they see there is nothing they can do to break you guys apart! I mean that is very rude of them to be like that,but your love for eachother will conquer everything!

Answer 2

I used to be in your shoes, but I know then that my ex-bf really loved his family and cared about them more than me... It pains me when he doesn't answer me honestly, I moved on and found someone that I really love, his family adores me so much =D Good luck okay? You don't deserve all this stress, talk to your boyfriend, I wonder if he knows what's going on and doesn't do anything about it? He needs to tell his family, I love her! His family should respect you if they know what bothers their son... My sister and parents hate my boyfriend because we break up sometimes, and my family hate to see me so sad. But we always sorry, I always forgive him because I love him, and he does the same for me. Just remember that love is something you don't regret no matter how hard times can be. My boyfriend knows well that my family hates him, but that doesn't keep him from changing his mind. Again, good luck, I hope his family will stop giving you a hard time.

Edit: the real reason why my ex-bf's family didn't like me (they liked me before, cuz they thought I was sweet and I still am >.<) It's because they would tell me I stoled him away from the family... it's was very depressing when I lived they're too, always gave me rude comments... But I'm very happy now and you should be too! Do what your heart tells you, you want to tell you boyfriend how you feel? Tell him! He shouldn't be ignoring you but be your best friend!

Answer 3

Ignore them, the only one that you need to be worrying about is your man. You have 2 yrs invested in this relationship and if they haven't warmed up to you yet they may never.

As for him starting in on your family cause you don't like his. I think it may be something deeper, a person is only going to take so much flaming about there family before they start to do the same. And you can't say that you don't talk smack about them cause you did alot of it in the last of you details. I'd say if you really want to keep the man your going to just have to get over the family thing and keep your comments about his family to yourself before you push him away.

It's obvious that you love the man because you have been together 2 yrs and you have put up with alot. Just ignore his family as long as you love him and he loves you that is all that matters. Just don't flame the family.

Answer 4

-BE THE BIGGER PERSON
-TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND TO MAN UP
-STAND UP FOR YOURSELF
-AND FOCUS ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM

I'VE BEEN GETTING GREAT ADVICE FROM A CLOSE FRIEND. AND JUST FORGET THEM. FOCUS ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM. YOU WILL BE A LOT HAPPIER! TRUST ME. ITS LIKE JEALOUSY OR SOMETHING.

-same thing here. bf of 4 yrs. lived together for 1 year before he goes off to college recently

-his mother,grandmother, family, whoever, blame me! because he refuses to stay with them when he comes down to visit (never had a problem with anyone until this)

-his dumb sister has never liked me for no damn reason, at all!

it sucks. i know how you feel. You guys live together so sit down and talk about it..how you feel and what you guys should do as a couple. All that crap happening, could probably make your relationship a lot stronger. I know it has made our relationship 10x stronger and loving it. hope i was a help in some way. GOODLUCK! X10

Answer 5

you need to talk to your boyfriend, dont try to break up the family or anything, but you are not really going to be able to talk to the family, either have him talk to his family, or figure out a way that you dont have to deal with them. Depending on how he acts this is a good sign of your future together, because it can only get worse, and he needs to support you, if you guys plan to be together for a long time. otherwise, you might want to start looking for your own place...

Answer 6

I think that you should go because it will do two things for you. One, you will show that you stick by your man regardless of the circumstances and this might gain you some respect from his dad. Two, you can watch to see what qualities your boyfriend's dad sees in this other girl that he wanted him to get with. From this maybe you will understand him a little better and that can help you mend the relationship between you and his father. It's hard enough to maintain a good relationship with your significant other, you don't need to make it harder by brewing problems between you and his family...good luck, I hope my advice helps.

Answer 7

First of all; lose his family. Tell him to tell his family, they better quit, or you're out the door. Don't deny him his family, but yet tell him his family better get to the point of accepting you. Don't say anything negative about his family (although you feel it), just let it roll-off, but be firm.

If you can't go to a family gathering of any degree with your boyfriend's family, then you should relook at your degree of relationship with your boyfriend. Although, it may sound hurtful- Is this something you want to deal with (being the outsider and disliked?). You're worth more and there are so many out there, but only ONE of you.

Good luck!

Answer 8

There needs to be respect regardless of who doesn't like who. It is his responsibility as your Boyfriend to let his family know that it's not o.k. to treat you that way. I find it hard to believe that he turns a blind eye to everything they are doing. As for your family you should set boundaries and you don't speak ill of his family and he doesn't speak ill of your family. Also if it's a matter of his family not even trying to get along with you and your Bf is taking their side then you may want to step back and look the situation and whether or not it is good for you. Sounds like you lose regardless of what you do. I would go with him to his families house when he goes and be the nice person you are. Don't allow them to bring you down to their level!

Good Luck!

'-)

Answer 9

Ignore it all, if your boyfriend really loves you he will resist the urge to cheat on you or wont do what his family wants him to do. It will be a test for your relationship.

Answer 10

WOW. I just hope you REALLY love him to endure all this b.s. If he really loves you though, he should make his family back off and they should respect that.
Good luck