Guys, Hurt by a girl?

Question

Hello guys, i just want to ask you, if someone you loved hurt you deeply, i mean not physically but in heart, what are your reactions and what are you more likely to do ( to relieve your pain or do you live with this pain)? Because i think that guys don`t like to show their feelings, well are you sad, frustrated....? People may not be around you, when you`re alone, what is your reaction? Does your reaction in this case is different when you`re alone or when other people are around? What do you do? I would please like genuine and detailed answers, thank you very much...

If you are not the type of person to discuss it with other people, i mean you bottle it...

And If you are not the type of person to discuss it with other people, i mean you bottle it... what do you do? Or do you talk with other people about it?

Answer 1

Usually I feel miserable. There are two cures that work for me. The first is time. The second is distraction. Distraction can be a new person to date, an interest that keeps your mind occupied, or even having a serious problem come up that forces you to worry more about that. The worst thing you can do is sit around thinking about it.

Answer 2

Well. I found out that my girlfriend held hands with her ex while she was out of state. I bawled for three nights and couldn't eat for three days. She never even admitted it to me. I had to tell her that I was checking her messages (an assholish move, i know, and i regret it a lot) and we're on a break now. But I'm not sure what I'm going to do about it. I have this weight constantly pulling me down because I'm still in the dark about the situation, and I'm not sure how much more of it I can take. Guys hurt. They just don't show it around friends. I am lucky and have three people who I can talk to when **** like that happens. Not including my girlfriend(?). This is the first time my heart has been truly broken, and I'm still trying to pick up the peices almost a month later.

Answer 3

I will be honest...when I'm by myself after a woman has broken my heart, I cry. Yes, call me a pansy, but it's the truth. I've also cried in front of very close friends, but people outside of my inner circle know I'm hurt, but not to what extent.

As for myself, when I got out of the one relationship that I thought was going to be my last, I drank myself into oblivion almost every night for a month. I know that this is not a healthy way of dealing with emotions, nor would I suggest it, but it was the only way I could numb my feelings. I wanted to go kill the guy that was the reason of our breaking up, so instead I had to find something to take the pain away. I was only 24 at the time and being 3 years older and 3 years wiser, I know how to handle these situations better. Surround yourself by people that actually care about you. Your real friends won't let you down and they will support you when you can't support yourself.

Answer 4

it you could bottle the solution to your question and sell it, you'd be rich beyond your dreams and just have another hot woman waiting in the wings. that not being the case, I will tell you I have been there many times and currently going through it. i suggest work on improving yourself...IMMEDIATELY. whether by studying harder, working out more, putting in extra time at work. not only do you feel a sense of accomplishment that the chick took away, you are also readying yourself for someone else. Stay as busy as possible too..i mean every freakin' minute you can. good luck. pretty soon she will come back OR you will realize you were a fool for letting her get to you because now you have so many more options with your new found confidence. go get 'em

Answer 5

Just because you are a male does not make you superhuman. Guys think so many times that hiding their emotions makes them stronger, I can say this because I almost never cry in public, not even in front of my parents or best friend. I try and pretend I don't have moments of weakness, but I do. But even if I hide my tears it does not mean they are not suppost to be there. You can't be strong and proud all the time. If someone cuts you, you have to bleed. If someone you love hurts you, you are going to have to let it out. Just do whatever is natural. Me, I work out like crazy when I am upset. I work out hours at a time just as long as I keep moving. But that only lasts for so long and then I can cry.

Answer 6

I'm likely to be hella depressed...

Walk around like a zombie, if people ask, I usually just say, its been a long week.

I used to be more open but then I realized many people aren't to be trusted.

Answer 7

EVERY guy i know got f*cked over by a girl, including myself. and yea, guys hate to be vulnerable. just make sure you've got all your guy friends around you to console you. usually, whenever it happened, we just drank/smoked a lot, and threw parties with ho-ish girls to cheer us up and stuff. talk to your boys about it, that's what helped me out. thas also how you get out of this funk you're in.

once you're emotionally ready, hang out with different girls (not sex, but to a movie to kick it, or just to the store or somethin) to get your mind off of the ex.

i used to get really quiet and withdrawn. i didn't eat, didn't want to talk to anybody. i think i was more mad that i didn't see it comin, and also that i let myself get hurt. plus, i felt like i was invincible...drugs couldn't stop me, i was untouchable in football and basketball, i got decent grades...but then i got knocked down by a dumb girl. big blow to the ego.

when i was alone, i wrote. a lot. not only about the relationship, but about EVERYTHING. writing helps. than i burned it, kinda like i'm finished with this nonsense. felt good to destroy those sucky feelings. time heals all, but burnin stuff felt like it helped.

but most importantly, surround yourself around people you love, esp. your guy friends.

Answer 8

Mope around feeling like death warmed over and if anyone notices, I say I'm ok.