Theres this person that only talks to you when she needs something.
If she needs money, food, or other things she talks to me and then ignores me. Sometimes I tell her I don't have those things, and then goes ask another person. But just ignores me, but I don't care. I just want her to leave me alone. If she feels she is alone she needs to be with me but when she found another person she just leaves you without saying anything. She does not share and is very greedy. People don't like her that much.
Interrupts my conversation. At first she was all over my friend all friendly and would ignore me. I would talk to my friend and she would interrupt me. Now she ignores my friend as well, only talks to her when she feels like it, and I told my friend about it. She is aware of it. What can I do?
2007-01-25 17:36:43 · 19 answers · asked by Questions 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't want to be her friend she is not even a friend. She just came up to me because she was alone. So I decided to give her a chance.
2007-01-25 17:48:05 · update #1
If she approaches you again, say "Oh hello, what do you need now?" She will likely respond with a "why do you think I need something?" or some version of it. When she does, say politely, "well I noticed that you don't talk to me unless you want something, so I have decided that we might as well cut to the chase. You only have use for me when you need something. So since you are talking to me, what do you want?" She will likely be too embarrassed to ask...if she does....say "NOPE, have a good day!" Walk off or go back to what you are doing.
If she answers your first question so boldly with her needs, then say, "Haha, I was right! You NEED something from ME. I wonder how many other people have figured this out about you. The answer is NO. NO today, No tomorrow, and No to infinity. Have a good day!"
2007-01-26 00:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by mamacatto2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like this person is a friend. I would be completely honest with the person. Tell her that you are not some personal supplier of the things she needs. Tell her that this "So-Called" relationship is completely pointless and that you want to end it because it is not a healthy relationship. Honesty is always the best policy. You can always say this in a way that suits your personality but in all honesty...you have to say something to end the nonsense or else it will just continue to annoy you and get worse.
2007-01-25 17:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by misstonya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person is only friendly when they want something from you, then they are not your friend.
There is nothing nice or noble about getting used and getting taken advantage of. This beyotch is totally taking advantage of you for food, money, attention, etc.
It's time to start the Ignore Game, and ignore her and her stupidity. Avoid all contact with this beyotch!
Good Luck and Take Care *hugs*
2007-01-25 17:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start blowing her off. Moochers hate mooches. When she calls and asks for something tell her enthusiastically, 'yeah, sure, absolutely! I'd love to help. But, let me call you right back..' Then, don't call back or answer her calls for days.
When you do call back, call as if you were calling to borrow something and don't even mention what it was that she asked you for originally. When she does bring it up, sound really sorry and say, 'aw man! I can't believe I forgot I'm so sorry. Of course I'll help you out. Ooops! Someone's on the other line, I'll call you right back...'
the bonus is that you might get to work off some of your pent up irritation with her in a fun and constructive manner!
2007-01-25 18:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by shees_a_challenge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is like that too. I have to learn not to give him things because he then thinks it's easy to take advantage of me. The term moocher comes to mind. A moocher is not your friend. Just tell her straight out "You don't like feeling used and will no longer be her free meal ticket" That should get the point across.
2007-01-25 17:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
politely tell her that you know what she is doing that you have tolerated it as long as you are going to,if she needs something she really needs to find someone else,you and your friend ignore her and go about your own affairs,when she starts to interrupt you tell her you will be finished shortly that if she hasnt learned that it is very rude to butt into a conversation you know a good ettiquite teacher that you could refer her to
2007-01-25 17:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time she wants something just ask "Hey, what have you got to trade?"
Next time she interrupts your conversation just act like you didn't hear.
This is tough, I know. But she won't ever change as long as people keep acoomodating her.
2007-01-25 18:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you already have the answer to your question. You don't feel comfortable around her; you know she's a users/abuser; and time keeps repeating itself with her ignoring you, when you don't fore fill her wishes. Ask yourself, what's positive about having her in your life; other than defining annoyance.
2007-01-25 20:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her in a very pleasant manner. At first try not to opensed her and try to explain the situation which she is doing. Try to convinced her to change her attitude. If, the outcome not goes well its time for you to stay away from her!
2007-01-25 17:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mhazel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ignore gits like that. I will speak if spoken to, but that is it. I would do little or nothing for a person like that if asked, I might add.
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-01-25 20:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋