we've known each other for almost 8 years now, and we have grown very close to each other. I don't think there's a single thing that I haven't told him or that he doesn't know about. I mean back in high school I had a crush on him and I flat out told him, and he'd just tell me he didn't feel that way towards me. And we went on being friends. We both had our first loves and remianed friends but didn't see each other like we used to. Both our hearts were broken,mine first and his more recently, about 4 months ago (he dumped her). Since then we've seen each other maybe two or three times a week, and call each other whenever we get the chance. And now I have realized I have fallen in love with him. He's everything I could ever want, & its not the fact I can see myself with him, its that I cant see myself without him. But I dont know how to tell him, since he just found out his ex is dating is cousin and he's a little upset about it, and hurt. When do I tell him? And how do I tell him?
2007-01-25 17:16:30 · 14 answers · asked by roxiluv05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tread very carefully he is in a vunerable state of mind and emotion you don't want to be the rebound relationship, at this point anything that happens or is said is said under the veil of heartbreak. maybe just be there for him when he needs you and when you feel that he has accepted the ex is just that, an ex, and he finds himself able to tolerate the name of his cousin < cause i'd be one hell of a angry gnome if it was me> then be honest tell him that you know back in high school there wasn't a spark but now that you've both grown and matured maybe things have changed.i wouldn't be waiting forever for this change in him though set a time limit and help him, without telling him you have a time obviously, to grow from this bad experience and see a new future. i wish you all the best and hope that your friendship will remain no matter what happens because unfortunatly in this world you never know enough true friends in your life...
oh and one more thing the best relationships are the ones that started as friends..my man and i are 4 years strong together with 12 years of friendship....good luck
2007-01-25 17:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by wild_witchy_one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes friends can become lovers but most people will tell you that if this is a one-sided feeling, as it seems to be in your case, then what usually happens is that you lose a friend. So how important is this friend to you. Is it the friendship that you want or are you missing having a romantic relationship and this person just is the closest to you at the moment? You must decide. I would keep the friendship but be a little less available and try to go on a few more dates before you decide to confess your feelings. Good luck !
2007-01-25 17:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do what I did, don't wait and then realize you are too late. I knew a guy for years, we were great friends, it escalated into a small crush, then turned into love. And even after I knew I loved him I hesitated to tell him. Now I still am madly in love with him and he's about to walk down the isle with someone else. Tell him strait forwardly, tell him exactly whats in your heart. If it's what you want, for Gods sake don't hesitate.
2007-01-25 17:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, all of it. He has been with you through thick and thin already. I really think he'd run away from you now. Tell him what you said in your question.
"He's everything I could ever want, & its not the fact I can see myself with him, its that I cant see myself without him."
If that doesn't touch his heart, nothing will.
2007-01-25 17:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the time u should b close to him in that way he will open his and see that he has been missing a great oppprtunity to be happy ..u deserve each other i can tell he has something for u
good luck
2007-01-25 17:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by broderm2k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times u just have to come out and tell him if he does not like u the same why then he does not know what he is missing out on
2007-01-25 17:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by hot_noe_1235 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so close to him, you should be able to tell him what you feel in a place where there is only the you two....
2007-01-25 17:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to enjoy the FRIENDSHIP. Let him know that you enjoy it, and help him get over his ex.
Any permanent good, lasting relationship has to have friendship at it's core.
Talk to him openly about how you feel.
Good Luck.
2007-01-25 17:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by thearthound 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks of himself as your BEST FRIEND also he probably has a thing for you too, he is a guy and you 2 can spend all your days danceing around it or bite the bullet and talk to him about it.
2007-01-25 17:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he's upset just be there as a friend then be more than a friend slowly, since he knows you and you know him you know what he likes a girl to be like and just take it slow:]
2007-01-25 17:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by anime_manga_geek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋