I know that they will all be upset that I won't come to the family functions and be mad at me. But my brother won't stop bullying my kids or me. Nothing I say, not even a letter works...
2007-01-25 17:14:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't go actions speak louder than words. You are right to stand up for your kids and if your family is upset because you don't attend maybe they will stand with you and demand your brother stop. If they don't they are adults but you don't want your children to start behaving like your brother and you might have to stay away for the sake of your children. If your brother has not grown up yet he probably never will so you might as well take action now and save yourself more years of the same aggravation.
2007-01-25 17:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by puzzled 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd sit down and have a talk with your family. They shouldn't be mad at you,but your brother instead. If they know what's going on, they should ask HIM to not attend family functions!
2007-01-26 06:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Isabel*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how does he bully you and your kids and why? If he is physcally and verbially abusing you and your kids and your family is not taking you serious or if they dont care then why should you care if they are mad at you? I wouldn't
You are a good mom just because u asked here doesn't make u a bad mom. They are your family after all. My dad would kick my brothers butt if thy did something like to me and my baby. You might want to let them know whats going on if you haven't already!
2007-01-26 01:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by momof1abc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth. Send a letter in the mail, or an email. If your family can't support you or at least stay neatral.. then they are more interested in keeping the family together, no matter how unhealthy of a situation.
2007-01-26 02:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actions really do speak louder than words. You've tried talking to them, you've written a letter... now it's time to take a stand, for yourself and for your children. No need to broadcast it to anyone other than your parents, and no need to be overly upset or forceful. In this situation, the most effective way to deal with it is calmly and respectfully. Tel them you're making this decision for yourself and your children, and you feel bad that it will hurt your parents, but you cannot allow your children to be subjected to his behavior any more. That's it. End of story. If they argue with you, or don't take you seriously, don't get into it with them... just calmly tell them you're sorry they don't understand your position and that your decision is final.
Good luck. Situations like this are never easy... but you won't regret it.
2007-01-26 01:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by Amy S 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth, your kids are worth it. Also, your family deserves to know why. As an added benefit, your absence and the reason why may cause the rest of your family to get on to your brother and maybe he'll listen to some of them!
2007-01-26 01:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be absolutely honest.
Give examples of his behavior.
Tell everyone that you won't be attending anymore family functions until brother dear learns respect.
And stick by your decision.
2007-01-26 01:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the TRUTH. Or subject your children to more abuse...it's YOUR call. YOU are your children's mother not your family...which is more important to you? Attending a family function or the safety and well being of your children? Obviously you are too immature to be a parent to begin with if you would even ASK such questions.
2007-01-26 01:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell them that until he grows up, you would rather only attend funcitons he is not at just for that reason...he is a overgrwon bully. Face him head on and tell him to get a life!
2007-01-26 01:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell em just what you told us. If that doesnt work, keep it really short...like an hour...ooops gotta go...I suppose to also see...
2007-01-26 01:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋