When my girlfriend broke up with me she said that she wanted to take it back a step to when we were just dating and not a couple. this was back in october and, since then we've continued to go on dates and have became really close friends. Ever since day one i've been crazy in love with her. and she's told me a few that there's still a chance for me. so here's the question should i keep going after my dream of being with her or should i just be happy i got a real good friend out of it? any suggeston? what should i do?
thanks in advance for any answers.<(X_x)>
2007-01-25 16:56:01 · 15 answers · asked by Jeremy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear Jeremy
One of the hardest parts about dating/friendship of any kind is when one person has way more feelings than the other person.
If you crowd her, she might pull away some more... which will cause you to feel more anxious and you will then be tempted to crowd her even more.... it's usually a downward spiral if you play it this way.
Best thing is to give her room, refuse to give in to your feelings of jealousy, frustration, fear of losing her... find something else to do during the times that she wants to be doing something other than being with you.
Don't give up on the relationship, but cool it for a while and take your cues from her. And you will eventually know if there is hope to have a relationship that you are both happy with.
2007-01-25 17:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by snickersmommie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you guys have to be open with each other, and often by staying away for a few days isn't always a bad idea. Generally, the more areas two people have connected the stronger the relationship. What I am saying here is like being together just emotionally, sexually is not as strong a bond as one that has intellectual, physical, and other areas together as well.
2007-01-26 01:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by FotoNerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go out on a few dates with other girls. It sounds a bit like your "friend" has a bit of the "I don't want him but you can't have him either" syndrome. She will either not be bothered a bit, in which case you still have your good friend or she will come running back for you and you will get your girlfriend back.
2007-01-26 01:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by grenter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be ahppy that you have a great friend and get back into circulation. Never be the "back burner" guy. Some women keep men dangling for their own security while they're trying to find someone they like better. That's not love, it's not mature and is not considerate of your dignity. She maybe a great friend, but doesn't sound like good relationship material.
2007-01-26 01:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by TJTB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A step back? She wants her cake and to eat it as well. You are the old stand by. I would start dating others. It would force her to make up her mind about what she wants. You could still be friends but don't waste time hoping for more when it may not be there.
2007-01-26 01:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age but if you are young...SLOW DOWN...God take a break. You throw the love word around---you cannot possibly know what it means in the adult sense. She obviously wants to slow down---probably for a few good reasons---you better take the hint and cool your tool---Enjoy nice easy dates and get on with having fun at the age you are at. Is this all you worry about?? Do you go to school? Get a hobby or a job or something to occupy your mind. She isn't going to run away---give it a break and stop the pathetic act.
2007-01-26 01:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you have a good chance and I know that is what you want to hear as well. Keep working towards the goal.
2007-01-26 01:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay friends for now if something happens in the future then let it happens but its best to stay friends and let her let you know when shes ready to start being a couple again
good luck
2007-01-26 01:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you got to start showing her what she is missing by not being fully with you... ignore her a little bit, but not much... and let her know that you don't want to keep playing to dating.
2007-01-26 01:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by fuser86 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she's stringing you along. Move on - and don't let someone have control over you like that. It also seems to me that she wouldn't treat you like that if she respects you enough to call you a friend.
2007-01-26 01:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋