2007-01-25 16:41:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
spanking is the only thing that really works.
2007-01-25 16:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 5⤋
There is no "best" Anything is better than spanking. For me "time outs" and just not acknowledging inappropriate behavior worked. I know that the "deterance" (or removing the child from the area) works. For other parents it was sending the child to their rooms (these are parents who didn't allow televisions, computers, etc in the bedrooms). In my opinion spanking a child is a lack of intellgence on the part of the parent to come up with an alternative method than physical violence. Even Apes can hit...
2007-01-26 00:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Being consistant with your discipline is the best thing you can do for a child. If you tell them to stop something or else you had better follow through with the "or else" or they won't learn that you mean what you say.
I use time out as an alternative and I use it consistantly. The child gets one minute for each year of age. They are completely ignored and they have to stay their for their full time. If they get up I put them back without a word and ignore them and they start their time over again. Before they come out of time out I get down to their level and talk to them about what they did wrong and what they need to do to correct it. Then we hug and things move on.
I also take away privileges and toys on occasion, but time out has worked so well that I normally stick with that.
Being calm and consistant in your discipline tells a child you are in control of the situation and that you are to be respected. If they know that everytime they cross the line there will be a consequence eventually they learn to respect that line. It's not easy to find the time and energy to follow through, but when you do you will find that in the long run you have to do it a lot less.
2007-01-26 00:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
even though i have spanked all three of my children (really who out there has not?) I honestly find "time out" to be more effective.. For one i love my kids to pieces and it hurts me to even think of hurting them so ya i think time out is for sure the BEST alternative. Plus time out gives the child time to actually think about what they did wrong.... spanking well all they are thinking about would be the pain... There IS a difference in spanking and beating though ... beating should be complete jail time for the parent .. and spanking is a swat on the fanny..
2007-01-26 00:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by amylynn1976 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well each kid is diffrent and reacts to diffrent punishments in diffrent ways , so to me its 50/50 for some kids taking tv computter vidio games etc dont work at all never does grounding them as well but a good spanking not beating seems to wok well other kids will respond to time out grounding taking privalege s etc , so i would say its up to the parent how they should be able to correct there child be it spanking grounding etc all kids are diffrnt so punishment should meat the childs age , actions etc
2007-01-26 01:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by dale621 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was spanked as a child, and I think I turned out great. All of my good, long term friends experienced the same thing. I think when applied correctly, spanking is the best alternative to spanking.
2007-01-26 00:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by greenbloodcell 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
There is no one best alternative to spanking. Because every child is different, and every misbehavior situation is different, it has to be dealt with on a situation - situation basis. I like to use timeout. Also, one of the most effective things I've done with my son is to take things away. He can't bear to be without his toy and will often immediately correct his behavior. I think to avoid spanking your child, you have to get creative. Figure out which consequences really get the best response from your child. Like, when my son spills something, I discovered he actually LIKES helping to clean it up (and therefore would spill things on purpose just so he could clean up!) so now when he spills something he has to sit and watch while I clean it up. Yeah, I know, I have to clean it up, but it's not about me! It's about him feeling inconvenienced which is the goal of punshment.
Also, I believe that prevention is better than punishment. A child needs to be taught to respect their parents and fear their disappointment, which is a lot better deterrent than fearing punishment. And parents of young children should do as much as possible to control their environment. A child who has had no nap and been subjected to stores all morning can hardly be blamed and punished when he throws a fit in the checkout line. That's a parent's fault, not the child's. I can't control everything, but I try to keep my child out of situations where it'd be near impossible for him not to misbehave.
2007-01-26 00:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Grounding...
I usually ground for the weekend..
A spanking is done and over with and soon forgotten.
2007-01-26 07:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by Donna S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking something that they value away I do not spank my 2 daughter and I think that they remember lessons in life alot longer when they realize that every action has a reaction yet it be good or bad
2007-01-26 00:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by Forsaken Rose 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
an ecletic approach consisting mainly of time-outs, grounding, and revoking of privleges.
parents just have to remember when they ground children- don't send them in their room-with their toys, games, tv, ect
if you send them to their room take that stuff out
2007-01-26 13:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking really does work the best
But for little kids, if you do spank them, always tell them that you are spanking them because you love them and don't want them to behave badly
2007-01-26 00:49:21 · answer #11 · answered by jasonbourne421 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋