he's trying to find a steady job, while im putting my college degree on hold, working seven days a week, housework, cook, etc. whe've been together three years, is it a waste.
2007-01-25 16:11:08 · 17 answers · asked by michelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
does he occasionally cook a meal? does he give you a massage? does he take the time to spend with you? Then he appreciates you.
Don't forget that he must be feeling really down on himself to not have a job and put you in this position, so the obvious stuff won't necessarily be there.
You will find appreciation in the small things he does, and honestly, they are the best.
2007-01-25 16:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you two could get down and set some parameters about what's happening. Your college is just as important as he looking for a job. Maybe you guys can decide what job he can do, listing what he has done good in the past, put together a good resume, practice some interview questions, seek out others. Yes, network, that's the magic word these days. Ask around and be open to people. Maybe someone knows someone who has a need for a person to do xxx, etc. Best of lucks. I was in the same situation for three years. Someone gave me the push to put in at least 4 hours, up to 6, a day searching for a job actively.
2007-01-26 00:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by FotoNerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look inside of yourself and ask yourself how much you love and respect yourself. If you don't know if your man appreciates you, then there's already a problem. Is it easier to be with him right now because you know what to expect? Does it feel right for you to be with him? Are you using him as an excuse for you to not go back to school yet? Or do you really feel like he is holding you back? It's not until you can take a hard look at yourself and the choices that YOU are making in your life that you will start the journey which can lead your to the answer to "is it a waste". It is NEVER a waste if you learn from your experiences. Not one person answering here can come up with the answer to this question for you. I wish you the best in finding it for yourself.
2007-01-26 00:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Julian A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's trying hard .. and you don't mind doing all this stuff for him..then i guess it's not a waste. If u guys aren't married u should move out or figure somthing out so u can finish college..u gotta figure out what's more important to u. U gota ask urself.. Is he there for me? Is he a good man? Does he love me and show me that he cares? Is this somebody i wanna spend my life with?..Just take the time to think bout things..and if u have doubts that he doesnt care..then ur better off going to college and doing that and maybe u'll find someone that actually cares!!!
2007-01-26 00:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by ayounglady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should he find a "steady" job when he has a built-in maid and cook who also supplies him with his spending money and sex? Why on earth wouldn't he appreciate a free ride.
Why waste any more time on this loser? Go get that college degree and do something with your life.
2007-01-26 00:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by Lois M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely its a waste of 3 years of your life you are the bomb girl get a back bone and feed that lazy bone to the dog like he is 3years putting yourself on hold, you are grown sit back awhile let him do some of the work as well and if he doesn't then use the old saying the door is right here let me open it for you oh by the way give my m/fen key you lazy no for good you get the picture 3 years a long time don't put your life on hold and don't burn your self out as well go have fun hey look at my name that's what it sounds like you need
2007-01-26 00:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by d1goodman4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't had a steady job since you guys have been together then yeah its a waste he is just wanting to support him when you could getting your schooling done first.
2007-01-26 00:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing that you put stock into is ever a waste. If you love this man, and he loves you, you should never have to doubt if he appreciates you or not. You should just know, even during the times that it doesn't feel right. Things always work themselves out. When you worry about something it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere. Put faith in your man and really thats all you need.
2007-01-26 00:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah *~Vicious~* 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So, you work. He does not, And, you are still cooking and cleaning. What is he up to while you are at work? Yeah, sounds like a waste to me.
Don't fall for the "I'm looking for a job" routine. People either gets jobs, or they claim to look for them. How long has he been looking?
2007-01-26 00:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's hard to find a steady job now-a-days. he most likely appreciates you but doesnt know how to thank you for everything that you are doing for him right now. if you love him then it's not a waste.
2007-01-26 00:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by ashes 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋