Today, I didn't go to school. It was really cold outside, and my b/f was telling me about how cold it was. Then he tells me how he was actually pretty warm, and how a bunch of his friends (all girls, most of his friends are girls) were "on him" because they were cold, and he was warm.
That kinda ticked me off. I mean, I'd bet every cent in my bank account they wouldn't have dared to do that had I been there, ya know?
And it's not like this is the only time his friends have ticked me off. He tells me all the time about how "this girl in my class keeps hitting on me" and "one of my exes ran up to me and kissed me" and all these other incidents with girls who obviously don't see him as being off limits.
And it doesn't seem like he makes a lot of effort to get them to back off. No matter what, he's ALWAYS nice to girls.
It seems like it doesn't matter to him that these girls are showing absolutely no respect for the fact that I'm his g/f. I'm not mad at him as much as these dumb girls
2007-01-25 16:05:54 · 24 answers · asked by Carolinii 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you shouldn't. You should be more confident in yourself. Who cares about those petty jealousies. You know you're worth his best effort, so don't show weakness by getting irritated about nothing. Whenever you get irritated at something petty like that, turn on the TV and watch the news. That will give you something real to be irritated about. Grow up and hold your chin high, and if he's doing and saying these things to irritate you on purpose, then leave him and find somebody who respects you more. But if he's just being his goofy self with his female friends, be cool and show them all why he has chosen you.
2007-01-25 16:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by theobviousanswerman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound innocent here. Why is he telling you all of this? It sounds like he is wanting to make you jealous.
You say you are mad at the dumb girls. If you want a "should," you should be mad at him. He is the one that is saying all this stuff and allowing it to happen.
What does he get out of telling you these things and by allowing them to happen? It seems he has some twisted idea that hurting you and getting you jealous will make him feel better about himself.
Jealousy is not an attractive trait, nor is it a building block to a healthy relationship. For him to manipulate you into jealousy is a sign of immaturity and disrespect.
How do you react? Do you get upset and put demands on him? Do you complain about the other girls? Do you try to be around him all the time so they don't have a chance to flirt with him? Do you try to control who he hangs around and what he does? For me, I would not choose to be in a relationship like that. That kind of relationship is a recipe for crazy making.
Best of luck to you. May you find the comfort and security you deserve.
2007-01-26 00:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself if you trust him or not. If you trust him then all these things really shouldnt matter. But from the way that your talking it sounds like you have a trust issue with him. You should deal with that first before anything else. Once you get that out of the way you can focus on other things like respect. Your bf is going to do what he wants and the more you tell him he cant the more its going to make him want to do it. So you can tell him how you feel and ask him that he change how he reacts to their actions, without telling him what to do. You should respect him and his feelings and he should respect you and your feelings. It sounds like you two need to have a talk and make some compromises.
Hope this helps
2007-01-26 01:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah *~Vicious~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be more mad at him, than all these other girls hitting on him. Does he know you're pissed off about this, if he doesn't I'd suggest to him that his female friends have to know some limits on their friendship with him. You should have a talk to him about his boundaries with his female friends. He should be respecting your relationship, that includes not flirting as far as he is I mean in the physical aspect of his flirting. Is he flirting back all the time? It seems as if he's enjoying all the attention from these girls or else he would tell them to back off and respect the fact that he's in a relationship.
2007-01-26 00:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is evil but....he is probably just trying to make you jealous. Have a friend observe the situation when you are not around and then determine if you need more drastic measures. If indeed you do try this. Throw a few wild stories of the same type at him and gauge his reaction. If he doesnt like it then he will most likley understand how you feel and show a little more respect.
2007-01-26 00:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by stormie a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a ladies man. If you don't like it, you should look for a new boyfriend. There's not much point in being irritated at the girls. You're not married to him so they're flirting with him... that doesn't make them dumb. They're just that kind of girls. And your guy does nothing to discourage it.
2007-01-26 00:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by L T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL- he likes it when u get mad
A taken man( esp. if his cute) is even cuter when his taken, &ur jelousy will just make the females try harder to p.i.s.s u off.
What u do?? well..didnt u know u have the upper hand?..make sure he is surrounded by his friends, smile &greet all of them walk up to ur bf &smooch the daylights out of him.
Then walk away with a smile, &tell him &his friends to enjoy themselfs-*winking* at him
ur Confidence as his gf will gain the respect of the friends.
2007-01-26 00:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the SAME EXACT position as u. or i was. my bf never said bak off or ne thing to girls and he was always nice. but i always thot it was the girls that were putting themselves all over him and i never looked at it the other way until i noticed him talkin to this one girl and well long story short he was the one flirting wit her & thats y she flirted wit him. so i broke up wit him. & im not sayin u should break up wit ur bf. but think of it as. wat would u rather have a bf that flirts wit girls or u able to live ur life stress free.
ur bf is prob a really good guy but it seems like u need to tell him that you dnt like him being nice to those girls so much. that u want him to make it clear to them that he taken and ur the ONLY girl in his life. otherwise its hopeless being wit him.
2007-01-26 00:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by Live Laugh Love 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is kind of disrespectful for them to do that and it is right of you to be somewhat jealous, but if you and your boyfriend can trust each other and you feel that he will be faithful..well then that's the end of that. The only reason why it would bother you is if you weren't sure and weren't confident that you were the only one.
2007-01-26 00:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by Janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try thinking of it as a compliment that they are interested in your man, it means you picked well.
Mostly it sounds to me like he isn't that into you. He is more interested in playing the field then he is about being in a relationship and if you want more than that then he is not your man.
My opinion.
2007-01-26 00:13:10 · answer #10 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋