I really like this girl and she likes me. But her last couple of relationships have been really bad. They all have ended in heartbreak. So she is afraid to start a relationship with me. How can I tell her that I would never hurt her? I have liked her for so long, and she is all I can think about. I really don't wan't her to slip through my fingers.
2007-01-25 15:47:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her how you feel right up front! Do not tell her until you're blue in the face that you will never hurt her. Because trust me my friend. You WILL hurt her eventually, Not intentionally, but it will happen because you're a human being. the way around that is to learn from your mistakes, then move forward. Give her time to get past the one who hurt her. Don't push the issue because you will push her away. be there for her, and let her know you care without forcing your love on her. Be honest and sincere, and things will work out. they always do if it was meant to be.
2007-01-25 15:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really keep a promise not to hurt her you may do it unintentionally. Maybe you'll find a side of her you don't like, you might break up, maybe you're not her type, you or her might not be attracted to each other later in the relationship and you get the point there are too many things that could happen. But you can promise her that you won't hurt her intentionally, treat her with respect, be honest and keep her best interests in mind. With that in mind she might be less hesitant to start a relationship with you. You do have to prove that you're worth the risk of heart break to her.
2007-01-25 23:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most relationships end in heartbreak, if not all of them. if you think about it someone gets hurt. U cant promise her you wont hurt her, so tell her that. But what you can promise her is how you feel about her right now. that you have feelings for her and that you want the chance to make her happy. dont give up on her just yet, but dont become a stalker either.
2007-01-25 23:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by hippieiam29 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok tell her to take things slow with u. Every relationship has its share of problems but u can work things through as long as u put the other one first.
Say the is some things u might do that might hurt her but it will never be intentional or deliberate.
U doing the right thing- hold on to her.
2007-01-25 23:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly what you just told me, say "I really like you, and i want you to know that i would never hurt you. You are all i can think about, and i don't want to just let you slip through my fingers."
2007-01-25 23:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ariella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aaww that’s the sweetest thing iv heard. Tell her what your wrote. If you have been friends for a while, tell her as a friend you would never want anything bad to happen for her, or hurt her in anyway, but your telling her that you like her be your friends and you owe it to her to be honest. I really hope everything goes good!
2007-01-25 23:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't think you should tell her that. I think it would be better to tell her you know how her other relationships ended and you want to be the man to make her forget she ever had anyone before you. Tell her that you want to be the one she will tell her friends about with pride. Tell her you want to be the person that she can put her faith into without regret. Then tell her that most of all you want a chance to prove it.
2007-01-25 23:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel and i know how she feels. love is something that takes time is a wonderful feeling. all i can say is be there for her, ask her how her day was, i think that the little things do count. and if things don't work out b/t you 2 still be ther for her and show that you were serious when you told her that you love her and don't want to lose her. then maybe she'll come around. good luck!
2007-01-25 23:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by j_la_02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her in a honest voice and stuff and be like i really like you and i have for a long time and i know you are hurt but i want to make you feel better and i dont want to hurt you and i wont i promise or sumthing like that something that seems like it came from the heart and is true or else she will be scared to do anything and wont like you any more
2007-01-25 23:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by Sammie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, show her your truest and sincerest intentions. Make her believe that you really intend to love her and not hurt her. Be a friend. Listen to what she has to say. Understand her fears then let her understand your feelings. Soon she'll realize you're the person she's been waiting for.
2007-01-25 23:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋