I am in love with this guy and we use to be in a relationship about 5 yrs. ago and now that we met up again and he says he wants to work things out and get back together, I want to so bad but yet he always dogs me on anything and everything and he says he is moving into his own place this weekend and he also tells me he wants me to move in with him in time. talking to him on the phone tonight I find out he has been hanging out with this guy that I hate worth a passion and I told him " No wonder why you have been an ***hole to me lately and dogging me? I have been trying so hard to leave him alone but yet he comes over to my house and he calls me constantly. But if I start talking to him ( paying attention to him) then all the sudden I don't exist, I am nothing but a pile of crap.. I don't get it; he use to never be like this before? Is it cause of his friend is why he is being a jerk? I need some good advice? I feel I have exhausted all of my avenues to get rid of him. HELP PLEASE!!
2007-01-25 15:38:48 · 13 answers · asked by Ms. Daisy_Duke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kick him to the curb, you don't need it. Move on with your life.
2007-01-25 15:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by ~ Inny & Coors ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem thank God mine moved. But I had to tell him flat out I don't love you anymore, he would call me up out of the blue and still does but he's far away now but he would say hey what are you doing, duh I have the same schedual I've had since I was 17 what do you think..I am 24 now btw. But he to when he is around his friends he likes to act like I was his ***** or something use to make me so mad til I just confronted him and embarrased him in front of his friend. Just watch out if he is tempermental do it in a real public place. I made the mistake of doing it at home. Needless to say he got arrested for assult on my behalf. So do what you will just becareful there friends can have serious influence on them.
2007-01-25 23:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by melanie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should make yourself less available.like if he asks to come over,or calls don't answer .if he asks why you didn't answer let him know you were out somewhere having a good time.and the being an asshole to you is his way of breaking you down .i would put a stop to that **** now by asking him 1 question.if you have so many faults why does he wanna be with you ? you back off alittle he'll either go away or see what he may loose .good luck
2007-01-25 23:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by tiffanyh2323 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to get rid of him or understand why he's doing this and learn how to live with it? I'm confused by your question. I personally think you should get as far away from him as possible. But you women always give these guys that abuse you "just one more chance". So now it's up to you. Are you gonna get back and give him more chances to abuse you or have you grow up?
2007-01-25 23:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright so this guy u like is changing because of the company he is keeping?? Well u can either get this guy alone, &have a serious talk with him. or get another guy to flaunt- time to take out the big guns!!!
2007-01-25 23:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, know your man girl! Don't blame it all to his friend. An asshole will always be an asshole whoever they hang out with. If your man is a good guy, even if his friend is a total jerk, if he really loves you, he will respect you.
2007-01-25 23:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u've done everything you can and used every excuse in the book the only thing left is to tell him to get lost. it may be b/c of his friend but u can't do anything about that. just tell him to back off. u apparently don't want to be with him, u just need to tell him that.
2007-01-25 23:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by brooklynbaby159 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it only a problem if you make it one. you were with him 5 years ago, he only doing what you are allow him to do, if he has
not change from then to now, he will never will. time to cut
him loose once and for all. and find someone that will give
you the respect that you deserve. he not the one.
2007-01-25 23:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run,don't walk. It seems your finally seeing the real him and it's not good. Simply tell him not to come around anymore,and if he does,ignore him. If he has a brain at all ,he'll get the hint.
2007-01-25 23:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is common among women. we have all been through something like this. you just have to ask yourself, who do i care about more, me or him. so keep busy so he cant contact you, maybe take up a new hobby, take a class in something. whatever you do dont move in with him. even if you decide to give him another chance, wait awhile. if its meant to be it will be.
2007-01-25 23:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by hippieiam29 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im goin through the same situation but kind of differnt but go git wit some body else
2007-01-25 23:45:57 · answer #11 · answered by shorty h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋