He wakes up about... 5am, and we get up around 7am ... well, I dont know why he wakes up that early- but we usually just put him in bed w/ us, and he sleeps till 7 or later. is that bad for him ? or us? he is an only child...
2007-01-25 15:26:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
he sleeps in a toddler bed, and goes to bed at about 8pm every night. we dont mind this short couple hours, i think it is because we were a couple months ago- living with in-laws (before our house was ready) and we all slept in one room, and we would put him to bed- and then later my husband and I would try to sneak in there and he would wake up- so we just put him in bed w/ us so we could sleep.... I think that is where the habit came from.. he never used to sleep with us... even as a baby.
2007-01-25 15:47:45 · update #1
No that is not bad, we have to pick and choose our battles and if you can get some extra sleep and so can your son then it's a win win. Our son did the same thing and it lasted for about a year. I asked the pediatrician about it b/c I did start to worry if I was creating a bad habit and he said it will quit around preschool age. Sure enough around 3 and a half he stopped doing it and wanted to sleep in his own bed. He's almost 4 now and I miss the days of him sleeping all cuddled up with us. He still does when he's sick. It's a phase and it will pass our lil' man now loves to sleep in until about 9 and it's great =) Just enjoy this and know that there's nothin wrong with it. I know some people will say that you're creating a bad habit but do what works for you and know he won't sleep with you forver. Do you know of any 15 year olds sleeping with their parents, lol?
2007-01-25 15:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's bad. I've heard to do what works best for your family. If you are getting a healthy amount of sleep by doing this, so be it... maybe if you can try to make bed time an hour later? Not sure if that will work. But, I dont' see a problem with it. My son has been getting his molars in- at 15 months, so he wakes up all throughout the night sometimes... recently it's been around 7am when normally he wakes up at 9am. Anyways, I lay down with him for about an hour when he wakes up again, and it works- I feel more rested and don't have a sleep headache, and he gets that rest that he needs as well. He's always been a night owl like me and my husband- he doesn't go to bed too late, but this is why he wakes up more towards 9 rather than earlier.
But I say as long as your son doesn't get used to the idea of sleeping with you- and can sleep on his own throughout the night until 5am... then it's ok... it'd be more like a nap with you. :)
Goodluck... when my son teeths, there are some times in order for me to get any sleep at all, I just have to sleep with him.
2007-01-25 23:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by lovingmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well unless you want him to keep joining you in bed for the next couple of years i advise you to stop letting him join.
Im not to sure on how, but I have to ask when do you put him to bed? my neice is 2 and she goes to bed about 730-8pm. Also make sure he gets alot of physical activity in the day, after nap, and before bed time. so that he really is tired and will sleep longer. Maybe he just likes to get up and sleep with you, you could try letting him sleep with a fav. toy. Also could try the award system, anytime he doesnt wake up early and climb into your bed give him a reward when you wake up.
I know hes you only baby but remeber parenting means knowing when to correct something that may later cause problems and be annyoing.
2007-01-25 23:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by corrick_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found when the kid climbs into bed with the parents, the parents and the kid loses sleep. You can tell him to go back to his own bed. You will be a better parent when you get a full night sleep and he will be better behaved after a full night sleep.
My 3 year old daughter was doing the same thing and we purchased her a digital clock for her room. We told her to stay in her room until 7 am....please. It works great. She was just having troubles knowing when it was morning.
Good Luck
2007-01-26 00:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dave S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want this habit to go away, please don;t bring him into your bed anymore. It sounds as if he may be getting too long of a nap in the day. Need a little more information on his overall daytime schedule, but perhaps going to bed too early as well. MANYyoung ones will rise around 5am, but if it is not desirable, you have to set the standard. Believe me, he LOVES crawling into a warm bed with his folks as day breaks (any little tyke would) so really this is reinforcing a beahvior I assume you want to stop.
Hope this helps. Try no more than a 1 hr. nap in the day at his approximate mid-point and hin to sleep by 8:30pm.
Good Luck.
2007-01-25 23:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by imoffmynut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there's nothing wrong with this. as long as he's going to bed in his own bed and staying there for the night, a few hours of extra sleep for all of you is fine. it's normal for a toddler to get up at this hour. be thankful you can contain him to get a few more hours yourself. just don't allow him to come into your bed any earlier than this. if it keeps getting earlier, like in the middle of the night, you will need to place him back in his own bed then. but enjoy the snuggling time right now.
2007-01-26 00:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by cagney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little, tiny, kids are very attached to, and need to be near, their parents more than older children do.
Its good that he gets into bed with you rather than be up and around the house, because if he was doing that you'd have to get up in order to watch him. (That's just one point.)
The other point is at his age its fine. He goes to bed in his own bed, so it isn't like he doesn't do that. Its a little cozy time. When he gets a little older he'll stop doing that because he'll start sleep later most likely. Its fine for him, and most parents would agree that its kind of nice for the parents too.
2007-01-26 01:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have one little 2-year old boy. He goes to his bed every night, but most nights wakes up early morning and climbs in bed with us for a couple hours. I actually worry about him and get up to check on him on the nights he doesn't get in bed with us. I don't think it hurts one little bit. He still goes to bed in his own bed, but if he needs comfort, security, whatever...what better place to get it from than mom or dad. I always let him know that if he needs us he can come get us. One day he will grow up and not come in anymore...and like some others mentioned, we will miss that snuggly time. So, do what is best for you, your family, and your little boy and don't worry about what others think, say, or do. (I'm still learning that too)
2007-01-26 01:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by TMOM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If everyone is comfortable in bed together and you can sleep well, why not? Just beware that this is a habit that cannot be easily overcome! I have a friend whose children, ages 2 and 5, still sleep in the parents bed with them (all night)! Yikes! I guess if it works for them, who cares? But I could never get any rest with my kids in bed with me. And if you do it, be prepared to do it for a long time!
2007-01-25 23:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by rshegv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether you let your toddler in your bed to sleep and/or snuggle is entirely up to you. I don't think it will harm him one bit in his future life. I love when my 2 year comes crawling in to snuggle with me in the early morning - we both go back to sleep and wake up in good moods in a couple of hours.
2007-01-26 00:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ruby Rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋