does a mother own a child more than the father?

Question

Do you find it unfair that when parents get divorced the mother will be given more preference to have custody of the child, even if the father is just as good a parent. For example even if the father has more money and can give the child a better lifestyle the mother will still be given preference (unless she is an extremely bad mother) Why is this?

Answer 1

Just the way most Courts are predisposed to rule.

Answer 2

wow! this one catches the eye.... have not read the other answers so if I am repeating what is already here? sorry

wow... "own"? in this day to be here (or anywhere) asking if one person owns another person more? wow! I want to say so much in answer to that? it is just getting stuck up there in the brain.... I do not own my children! I am lucky enough to be raising them to be adults? but.... own? okay.. I am sure you did not, could not mean it the way it sounds? so I will try and give you my point of view on the rest....

yes it is true men still earn more than us women.... I can not understand why do people always get stuck on "the money"?
how does money alone make a man more deserving of raising an adult? it takes more than money to raise healthy, strong-minded, well balanced, nurturing adults.... both parents are needed!! one should be there nurturing and tending to all the daily things... home and hearth! one should provide the "material" things.... both should be there daily for the supportive, teaching giving....! if both parents were together, this question would not be an issue.... because dad would not be involved with the day to day "issues" for the most part.... mom would... dad and mom would work... when they got home? what would or does happen? mom cooks, tends the children and dad "relaxes" and if the problem is big enough... he helps out.... but the "little" things... the ones that help to create the healthy well adjusted adults? that is still mommy...... so why is it when the family splits into two... that daddy all the sudden needs that control? oh... "his" money is now affected... not the children's lives...?
sorry I am not answering as well as I would like... this is a complicated issue....okay.... so to answer?
why it is? is because unless a mother is "extremely bad" we are still better at it than the dads.... sorry men... there just is no other way of putting it..... unfortunately... even now people forget "team" when it comes to emotionally charged things like raising adults.... both parents are needed... not just one... both are intrical to the raising of well-adjusted healthy adults... so the kids live with mom more than dad... they still have a room at dad's.... and "stuff" so dad earns more than mom... he can't give what mom can.... it is impossible because he is NOT mom... just like mom is NOT dad...... and both are key.... both... whter it is seven days a week with both... or four with one three another.. or only every other weekend seeing one... and all the rest of the time with the other... both... team, group..... it takes a village to raise up a child to adult.... right? so.... why is "money" the key again?
what does it matter which roof harbors them more often?? they still HAVE both parents....don't they?
do I find it unfair? yes.. I also find lots of other things unfair... like that a man can go into an office do the same job as me (and not even as well!) and earn more.... how's that?
but... I also see more often courts utilizing outside assistance and not just handing kids over to mom..... in NJ they have parents and children all go to be evaluated to determine the better "phsical" custodial parent.... and usually it ends up being "shared" parenting.. four days in one home three in another.... and it is all geared to what is in the best interst of the child..... so I do not see what you do as being the "norm" these days...

Answer 3

Neither parent ‘owns’ their child.

In the past judges made custody decisions based on the ‘tender years’ doctrine which was a presumption that mothers by nature were the more nurturing parent for young children. Therefore, Mom always got custody unless she was unfit.

But NOW men are SUPPOSED to be treated equally in custody cases. And in some states the ‘tender years’ doctrine has been ruled unconstitutional because it’s discrimination against men on the basis of sex.

However, many judges (especially older ones) do still follow the ‘tender years’ doctrine.

Now judges often base their decision (in large part) on who has been the primary care giver for the children…and who is that USUALLY (not in all cases, but most)? Mom.

Many courts are also awarding joint custody more often these days (which, frankly I think is a hard thing to make work, because being dragged from house to house every week is very tough on many kids, but that’s just my opinion).

Answer 4

Anyone can be a mother or a father, but it takes those special people to be mom or dad. No one owns a child...... and the child
should be with the best suited parent. Not only financelly, but the parent that can and will try to do their best for the child. Where they come first before careers,friends, lovers, etc. I know for a fact 2 men in my life that make better fathers and mothers than their exs would ever........

Answer 5

I hope not. In some country, Mothers were given more preference because of emotional considerations. Our nature calls it because they say mothers were made up to be more affectionate and tend to show their feelings more than the fathers but I believe time changes. Fathers too can do more than that. The technicality as to whether who will own the child really depends on who is more qualified to give not only financial support but in all aspect, whom will make the child worth to be a part of the community i. e. spiritual, emotional, social and the like.

Answer 6

I do wish you're kidding and that's a comedian tale,who includes the newborn for 9 months who suffers morning ailment,cramps, who is going around wobbling like a duck,has worry getting out of a chair,has to fret a pair of hubby that would check out narrow women,and ultimately bypass via a painful long hard paintings,earlier the newborn looks, wakes each 3 to 4 hours to breast feed them, and a few women individuals bypass via hell with painful bleeding nipples, who nurse them nevertheless the night, with all of the innumerable ailment teething ecc.. ecc.. in case you're lots in to the Bible you will additionally comprehend that no person owns anybody babies or adults, center jap ARE YOU ???????? I DO wish THIS LETTER IS A comedian tale OR THERE could be so lots greater to assert on the subject

Answer 7

I'm a mother and ironically I believe the parent who is most stable and loving should have the child live with them be it the mother or the father.

Answer 8

Well my ex abandoned my daughter, even tried to sell her to some idiots on the black market!!! She has three other children which she also abandoned... My personal opinion of the family courts in this nation are as follows: I think they are run by a bunch of morons, and the judge? the biggest idiot of them all, for following what the stupid social workers say (who half the time have no clue to what is actually going on) Needlessly to say I have full and permanent custody as well as placement of my daughter, and I had my ex's parental rights taken away.

Answer 9

because the mother carried him/her for nine months and gave birth while the father watched. they do get a little more preference. money is no object unless the mother does not make enough money to support them without help.

Answer 10

Nobody can own a child, but a women are just known throughout history to be with the children. That is what our system is using as a reference.