ok, here is the deal, i am with a great guy and he claims my two little boys and they call him dad. their sperm donor doesnt have anything to do with them, and the last time he contacted me was last may, on my oldest sons 2nd b-day. i dont want anything to do with him and the boys dont know him. he also owes child support, but he has skipped town. if he was to start paying the child support and wanted to see my boys, should i let him? i would prefer not to because he does drugs and loves to drink. he has never changed their diapers or given them baths and hasnt done anything compared to the guy i am with. so opinions are wanted!!
2007-01-25 15:14:21 · 4 answers · asked by smurfmom02 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would tell him to get a damn court order if he wants to see the kids. If you have full custody, you dont have to hand those kids over to him at any time!!I would let child support services know that he has drug/alcohol issues that you are concerned with, and you dont want your babies around it. You have that right. Cant take risks when it comes to your children. My husband and I are seperated, and he has a support order, but doesnt pay it of course. Due to his drug use, I dont allow him anywhere near our son!
2007-01-25 19:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by nellieb_959 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't let him. This will only confuse your children. If you let him see them how long will he be around? If he's in and out of there lives it's no good for the children. I would get a court order for him not to be aloud to see your children. Tell the judge that he does drugs etc and you don't want that around your children. If there is any way you could get him to sign over his rights as a parent go for it you and your children will be better off. My daughters father only comes around to see her when its convienient for him,she has to call him he don't call her and he will tell her that he's going to come see her and never does. When he does show up he brings her gifts and thinks that they will take care of everything. My daughter sits by the window and watches to see if he comes and crys when he doesnt show up. It is really heart breaking and I cry right along with her because I feel so bad for her. She has alot of emotional damage from him. So please don't let this happen to your children! If I new of a way that I could get him to sign over his rights I would do it in a heartbeat. He refuses to. Good luck
2007-01-26 12:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 20:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As father of the children, unless the courts say different, he has rights to see them.
2007-01-26 00:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋