If I have had phone sex, have I (spiritually) lost my virginity?

Question

In a christian perspective please

Answer 1

It all depends on how you see it... In a way, yes. At least, in the terms of speaking - or roleplay. This doesn't mean you have physically - but from a spiritual point of view - it's more of a sin. This sort of stuff can be seen as dirty - as the bible and the lord seem to go against it. They say, that the lords followers must be clean (physcially and mentally)... and all sexual-sort of relations/feelings are only meant for a married couple...

Just remember, don't be decieved ... and you can always redeem yourself for your er, sins...

Answer 2

What maximum individuals call "telephone intercourse" does not count selection as something. This looks like utilising a cell telephone as a dildo. it could effect in loss of her hymen, and from the perversion you describe, could even have have been given her pregnant, yet she does no longer have lost her virginity. it could be seen an occasion of non fantastic parthenogenesis, comparable to a swimming pool being pregnant.

Answer 3

Ok it took me a bit to look this up but basically the bible says if you look at someone with lust or think of a person with lust you are committing adultery, even if you aren't married because you are committing adultery on your future spouse; Phone sex would fit into that because your basically having sex through your mind with words and whatever.

Answer 4

(spiritually) you lost your virginity before the phone sex...so my answer is no

Answer 5

Yes. Also if you touch a playboy magazine or think about a woman lustfully or look at certain pages in National Geographic.

Answer 6

no
spiritual virginity is of the nature that one has never followed apostate(false) teachings.
whereas, phone sex has to do with attitude, meaning, that if one has phone sex (which I assume is accompanied by use of the right hand) would be committing fornication in ones heart(mind).

Answer 7

I'm not very religious but I believe that you have not lost your virginity (spiritually or physically) until penetration. OOOPPS that wasnt very christian jk :)

Answer 8

Well, yes. The idea is to keep your thoughts pure.

If you want my opinion, though, I think that it will be impossible to keep your thoughts pure... but I think that if you want to keep your technical virginity, you shouldn't be engaging in this kind of behavior... the further you go, the harder it is to stop.

good luck.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

It depends on if you're using a cell phone or not.

A study of teenage sexual activity reveals that teens, and even some pre-teens, routinely engage in intimate sexual activities. When they don't have vaginal intercourse, they consider they haven't "had sex" with their partner. Their virginity is intact.

The intimate activities these young people consider "not having sex" are oral and anal sex. Neither oral or anal sex will produce children. Both acts put the participants at risk of AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases.

When details of former U.S. President Bill Clinton's sexual activities with Monica Lewinsky came to light, he got into more trouble for lying than for committing adultery.

Most news reports focused on the type of sexual activity involved. Popular opinion was that they weren't really "having sex" because "only" oral sex was involved.
Is this why teens believe oral sex is harmless?

Oral sex involves actually touching the other person's genitals with the mouth and/or tongue. How much more intimate can an act be?

“Lord, give me chastity – but not yet!” – Saint Augustine (354-430 A.D.)

Ah yes, sex. How could one endeavor to write a book about relationships without touching upon this most favored topic?

I’ve found that, when western men discuss their sexual aspirations with Filipinas, they occasionally become rather schizophrenic. On one hand, a man may pursue a Filipina in the belief that she is the chaste and pure virgin of Internet mythology. He may be attracted to her apparent innocence, to her presumed village-girl naiveté regarding sexual, or even romantic, relations. This is the “never-been-kissed” or “vestal virgin” model of Philippine womanhood. It exists in contrast to the perceived sexual over-indulgence and poor moral character of western women.

On the other hand, once a man believes he has found such a woman, he often finds himself anxious to jump into bed with her, even before the wedding. He may also wonder aloud what sexual activities his future wife will be willing to partake in. Will she be frigid? Will she consent to his every sexual desire? Will she know how to perform properly? What are her taboos? Is it true that Filipinas possess a mysterious tribal lust that makes them bedroom dynamos?

The conflict here is obvious. Many western men in pursuit of a Filipina wife place a high regard on their future wife’s sexual innocence, yet are unwilling to accept the limitations that such virtue implies. They wish for a virgin wife, yet hope for sexual liaisons prior to marriage. They want a wife with no sexual history, yet worry themselves about what her sexual taboos are. They desire a true “lady” yet behave themselves not as gentlemen, but as cretins, confronting women they barely know with unconscionable questions regarding sex.

The “perfect” woman for such men would be a virginal and innocent lass who is, inexplicably, willing to hop into bed with him based on his promise to marry her, and who is sexually eager and proficient, presumably through some kind of genetic gift.

In other words, some men wish to have their cake, and eat it, too. I hope that you, reader, are not a member of this group.

Let’s discuss the issue of virginity.

In my opinion, one of the rudest and most unnecessary questions that can be asked of a Filipina is, “Are you a virgin?" I personally find the question revolting, though I know many of you will disagree with me. The thing is, this question is far, far too personal and frank to ever be asked of lady you respect. If she does answer (which is assuming she doesn’t disappear on you), she’ll probably either lie or avoid answering the question. So what good will the question do you?

For that matter, what does it matter if she’s a virgin? Are you looking for a sexual conquest or a lifelong, loving partnership?

Virginity may be lost in an instant, by choice or by force, through calculation or through bad judgment. It is, in my opinion, incredibly naive to think that a non-virgin is any less worthy of love than a virgin. And it is unwise to ask the question of any girl you respect; you may well be disqualifying yourself from consideration by merely asking it. How do you think a question like that makes you look? What if the tables were turned, and a girl wrote you inquiring as to your "dimensions" south of the belt buckle? (Also, would you "qualify" as a good husband if you didn't meet the lady's requirements...?)

Of course virginity is to be cherished, and there's nothing wrong with desiring a virgin husband or wife (it can go both ways, after all). My suggestion is that it is wrong to either select or disqualify anyone based on that one criterion, and that in merely posing the question, you will probably disqualify yourself as a potential mate for many wonderful women who will view you as "bastos" (ill-mannered). You will also probably hurt the feelings many innocents who do not desire, nor deserve, your judgment.