Should I let my daughter have a BF?

Question

I have a 12 year old daughter who wants to date a boy in her class. Do you think I should let her?

Answer 1

I am sick of people saying she is too young when they themselves started dating at 10. Let her date him but you have to have control on the relationship, you must meet the boy and he must know you, the world is changing and kids are exposed to things we were not when we were their age, they are smater than we were and they now tend to like dating ealier than we did. Jus advise her and tell her NO SEX and tell her all the problems and dangers she is likely to face in the relationship, you must become your daughters bet friend at this point now than she bout to step in the adult world. Its good she even came to you coz most kids jus satrt dating secretely so respect her for that and if you block her, she will date him or another anyway coz remember at puberty kids jus got this urge to break rules, good luck

Answer 2

To be completely honest...Not letting her have a b/f will send her the message that you don't trust her and it would probably hurt her feelings. Letting her have a so called "BF" will really be them saying hello in the hallway at school and sitting together in the lunchroom. No 12 year old is serious about a relationship, and showing her you trust her now will definitely be helpful in the future when actual bf's and dates come up. Trust me i've had a lot of experience in this kind of thing.

Answer 3

I would say "NO". I don't know your daughter though but no matter how mature she is 12 yrs old is just WAY too young. She's really still a little girl, and even if I was considering it, she would have to have all dates at either his house or mine with adult supervision. Too many young girls are having sex and getting into trouble from innocent seeming stuff like this. I would be extremely careful. I think she'd really thank you later on if you would let her date at 15+

Answer 4

ok first of all for most 12 yr.olds. a boyfriend is just a label to a boy and u usually just talk at school and occasionally on the phone. but if ur daughter is wanting to go on individual dates then my answer is its probably not a good idea. i no gurls whos parents let them do that and some turned up pregnant by 15. so be careful to be too easy but dont be too strict because she might end up rebelling. try asking her wat a bf is to her. maybe he should just come over on a weekend and hang out that way u can keep an eye out and you'll still be a cool mom.

Answer 5

I'd advise against the pitfalls of having a boyfriend at such a young age. By limiting her relationship to one person thus concentrating her attention and energies on this person, she is not allowing herself the full experience of adolescence.

She's in junior high or will be soon. This means new people and new challenges. She will be depriving herself of the chance of getting to know various individuals. Her youth and lack of emotional maturity may also make it difficult to deal with the upheavals that come with establishing and maintaining a relationship with the opposite sex. Spare her this heartache and headache for a few more years (if she'll let you). There is so much ahead of her if she would only be patient.

Answer 6

Why not? Better let her be honest and up front with you now, set the trend, so she doesn't go behind your back.
And you have to keep cool - even if what she tells you gets you angry at first, and even if you don't agree with it, the most important thing here is that she knows that she has a safe place to go with her questions - to you. And she knows no matter what you are there for her. She will make mistakes, but with a supportive parent like you, she'll come out stronger on the other end.

Answer 7

yes, she has to gain experience about life even if she has to suffer so she does not suffer later, just think about you when you were at 12. You wanted a girlfriend and saw that the fathers of your gf did let her be with you. You where sad and did everything you could.
But also you should have some rules, invite the boy to your house and put them to see movies, observe how is their relationship lvl. How the boy treat her. Any question email me.

Answer 8

Yes with these restrictions. 1 The boy has to meet mom and dad and have a conversation without your daughter being there. 2 The boy has to eat dinner with you an the family at least 3 times before you will let them go. 3. They must go with other friends and be in a public place with the understanding that dad or mom will check on them from time to time till you build trust. 4 If you object to what she wears she can not go. {Be reasonable here}. 5 They have a definite be back at the house curfew. 6 You want a phone call or meet his parents before they go.

Answer 9

Really, it depends. Is your daughter mature about the matter, or is she just fawning over some popular guy? In my honest opinion, I think twelve is a little young, but if you think that she can handle it, I say go for it. Make sure you get to know the other kid too; you don't want a dick to be your daughter's first BF right?

Answer 10

She should be allowed to go on a group date with that boy. Nothing bad happens at the age of 12. They are way too innocent. It is puppy love. Let her go on a group date for now.

Answer 11

Define date? Personally, I don't see anything wrong with a 12 year old dating as long as she has her limits. You have to talk to her and let her know the do's and don't's. I have a 13 year old and she has a little boyfriend and I keep my eyes and ears open. Of course, you can't really stop anything, even if you tried. Your best bet is to go along with it, so you can at least be aware of most things.