and after a year he said that it was over between you two what would you think?
2007-01-25 14:48:36 · 36 answers · asked by elliepenelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say he #1 Either didn't love you enough to stay the course, OR #2. He's just one of those people who are basically selfish, and your illness was a barrier to 'his' happiness.
I find it really hard to think that he was just so
heartbroken, or overwhelmed that he simply had to end it..Even 'if' that were the case it still points to selfishness..
2007-01-25 15:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had a terminal illness I would first be heartbroken knowing I had to face it, but at the same time know I would want to live each day to the fullest with or without someone beside me.
You are in a "place" in life that no other person who is healthy can even imagine.
You are very special because you know the "value of life" and what's important and what isn't.
When you and your boyfriend were together and you were healthy I'm sure things were as different as day and night.
It takes strength from you to fight to live .....and also strength to be strong hearing the news from your friend.
I'd feel very hurt deep down....because he was part of you for a long time.
I'm sorry he broke off the relationship because he is the one losing someone very special. You can't force anyone to have certain feelings if they are not there.....no matter how you look at it....it's painful for both of you.
No one knows how much time anyone of us have. We could be hit by a car tomorrow.....you are not alone.
Did you know in most cities there are "groups" that meet who are facing the same things as you. When people get together and share it's most comforting. Call your local hospital and ask for someone in the social services office. They might be able to point you in the right direction.
In closing, God bless and keep you mentally and physically through all you have to face each day and night....and keep you safe and allow you to enjoy each day 100%. Have faith and you will feel the love from God and friends you don't even know who are reading your message....
Sincerely,
Mama Jazzy Geri
2007-01-25 15:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had a terminal illness, I would not go out with anybody... I would not put anyone through the pain of seeing a loved one parish little by little.
But if I had someone, I would most definitely not tell them. If I'd die anyways, I'd do something like tell him that I've cheated... so that he would back off and leave... it is better to be hurt and be mad than to be hurt and be sad... so I'd make him hate me so it wouldn't hurt if I died...
And if I was in the situation where some guy leaves me after I've told him I'm terminally ill and I need him, well, I'd just realize that he wasn't worth my life anyways and that it is better if I not dedicate those last moments to him but better to those who really love and care...
2007-01-25 15:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. That he doesn't want to deal with the illness
2. Although he cared about you, he doesn't care enough to be there for you as you battle your illness and then watch you die.
3. He realized when such a serious issue came up that he doesn't really love you and thinks the kindest thing would be to break it off now since he's not going to hang around for the illness and inevitable end.
2007-01-25 15:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you have to move on. You have enough trying to cope with the terrible end and the way to it, and now worry because he left. He stayed a year, he wasn't that bad anyway. Without being selfish you should let him go try to find happiness. Probably is for the best for that person who is going to live longer, that only if they are not robbed and killed or run over by a car.
2007-01-25 15:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by pulguita picosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think he's a coward and didn't really love me.
Ya gotta take the good with the bad. I want my man at my side through such a difficult time like that. And in the end he'll still be alive not the sick person so I don't buy the sparing his feelings part.
2007-01-25 15:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might think he did not want to face loosing you to death.
I don't know how old he is or you are, but I am sure he does not know how to handle the situation.
I don't know what kind of illness you have, but I found a liver transplant group here on Yahoo that I joined which gave me moral support, so maybe you will want to join one for your illness.
God Bless and good luck.
2007-01-25 15:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, did you actually have a terminal illness? perhaps he just couldn't take the pain of watching you die or maybe he didn't really love you that much in the first place.
2007-01-25 15:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That he never loved me or he couldn't deal with the pain of eventually losing me to this illness and wanted to break it off now, perhaps to spare a greater pain.
2007-01-25 15:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by LisaLou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably think one has something to do with the other.
Maybe you should look at why he broke it off with you.If that doesn't answer the question for you, ask your ex why he left you.Getting a straight answer could help soften the blow a little.
2007-01-25 15:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋