and now she doesnt know what to believe what should I do to prove to here it didnt happen
2007-01-25 14:47:01 · 21 answers · asked by BJ O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's not much you can do. You said you didn't do it and you should leave it at that. If you persist then she will not believe you at all. If she believes her friend over you then that's the decision she has made. And in the future she will learn that her friend is a deceiving liar who cost her probably more then one relationship.
2007-01-25 15:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first, I would be upset too. second, trust is earned and it is a good idea though hard to bite ones tounge before spouting off things that get one into trouble for a moments satisfaction.
third, remember this lesson. BECAUSE YOU CAN'T PROVE YOU DIDN'T KISS THE OTHER GIRL.
SORRY.
You said the words yourself and deep down there will always be a naging voice that tells your girl that your second storry was a lie and not the first.
she has no reason to believe otherwise (would you) ?
geting the second girl (the kisse) so to speak tell her different holds no weight at all.
It could be you paid her to lie.
a lie covers an illeciet relationship.
afterthought made her decide it was better if no one believed the truth.
my advice watch what you say in future and grovel
a LOT.
2007-01-25 23:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by andreamarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 - Tell her calmly that you did not do it--getting angry or defensive will only make you look guilty.
2 - Thank about how you act when you're around your girlfriend's friend. Do you do anything that would lead your girlfriend to think you would cheat, like flirting? (Not saying flirting is always detrimental, but if you really like your girlfriend it shouldn't happen.) Do the two of you hang out without your girlfriend? If you can point to how you never treated her friend anymore than a friend of hers you'll have more of a chance of convincing her.
3 - Try not to belittle your girlfriend's feelings. How would you feel if you thought she tried to kiss one of your friends? It's very scary to think you're loosing trust in a person you love so try to be understanding and sensitive. Remember it's her friend that's lying not her.
Good luck!
2007-01-25 23:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lavender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get angry on her. She should have trusted you enough to know that you love her to that extent that you'll never do anything to hurt her especially with some one who's her friend. Don't break up with her, she's maybe over reacting because of how the friend may have delivered the news or something. Give her 2 days and if she still believes you're at fault, get angry and turn the tables. I love my boyfriend so much that I would never jump to conclusions as such and she should too. Stay away from that friend, she's trying to break up your relationship. Don't give her that satisfaction that she has. Fight for your girlfriend with everything you have. That friend is trouble.
2007-01-25 23:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by Girl-In-Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should all get together and explain both sides. Telling your girlfriend the truth that nothing like that happened is the only way to convince her. Ask her friend, "why are you doing this? what have l done to you?"
Your girlfriend should believe you, if not, what's the point of going steady with someone who doesn't trust you?
2007-01-25 23:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell her to quit worring and to trust you. You didn't kiss her, you didn't do anything wrong. Don't act like she's the victim, or that you are, act like the victim is the girl you started all this for the drama. Tell her that you wouldn't cheat on her and that if you did you would at least fess up if you got caught. If she doesn't believe you, don't mess with it. Just tell her she's believing the wrong person.
2007-01-25 23:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by delacroix192 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you people? This sounds teenage"ish". If you are teenagers... You should probably move on. This happens to people your age and it is just silly and it is a waste of energy to try to fight it. If you are adults... Make one more attempt to smooth it over but as long as the "friend" keeps this lie up, you may never be able to clear your name. You may need to get ready to move on.
2007-01-25 23:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by NolaD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
females do this all the time. Call up your girlfriends friend on three-way while your girl is on the line. That way you can catch her friend in a lie and let your girlfriend see what kind of friend she has
2007-01-25 23:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by saphire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something from C.S.I but there are recorders out there and trick the girlfriend's friend to talk to you alone and ask her why she is doing that to you? If it didn't happen you will be golden and the friend will be out. Kinda extreme, I know but that might be the only way.
2007-01-25 23:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain to your girl that she needs to trust you. If you didnt do it..ask her why if you wanted to make moves on someone else would you choose her friend. If the friend has tried anything with you...stay away from her from now on.
2007-01-25 23:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋