I have a friend that lives in Reading,PA and she wants to take her two kids over seas to Hungary where she where she was born because she was told that her Grandmother may not be around for much longer. And she wants to see her and she also wants her kids to see her. But the only problem it the kids are still in school and the nurse at one of her kids school told her that she couldn't take her kids out for no longer than 5 school. The reason why I wanted to know this is because she already has the plane tickets and they wont be comming back to the states for two weeks. What kind of trouble will she be looking at when they do get back and she dose have the kids out for more than 5 school days?
2007-01-25 14:34:27 · 20 answers · asked by JG78 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
she also told me that she had planded to have them bring any school work with them so that they didn't fall to far behind
2007-01-25 14:48:25 · update #1
the kids will have a lot of make-up work 2 do, but ultimately, if it might b the last time they c her, they should prob. go.
2007-01-25 14:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by CGaleh 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If someone is taking their children out for that long for the heck of it, then that's a problem. However, if her grandmother is dying, I don't see the problem in it. When I was in high school, my uncle was dying. I had to stay with my granny because she couldn't get out of bed. I was out of school for about a week. We called the school and they sent home my work with my sisters boyfriend at the time, yet they understood. Maybe she could call and have someone pick up her kids homework.
There was of course this time my little cousin was on spring break when I wasn't. I played sick to go stay with my aunt for a week. That of course wouldn't be a good excuse though. But I think it's understandable if a family member is dying. And hopefully she won't get "introuble". That would just be horrible.
2007-01-25 15:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she should not be in any trouble... she has taken steps it appears to ensure the children do not fall behind... it is a personal family matter, so as long as she keeps the school "in the know" then there should not be any over anxious teacher calling the state on grounds of "educational neglect"... also, her trip is the kind that teachers like... in the fact that if the children keep a journal about the trip (on their age/grade level) I know that when I was in school (yes, long ago) and when I had to take out of state/country trips with my own children that is all the teachers asked for.. not even make up work....
I do want to add..... since this has affected friends of mine as well... so the subject is one I am familiar with somewhat...
it is a shame that as parents we have to live with the fear of "getting in trouble" for going to see a grandparent who is not doing too well... that the school and state "jump" on a parent is doing some harm before they ask any questions.... such a shame
I hope she has a good trip.... and the children do as well!
2007-01-30 11:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by elusive_001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as the school is aware she is taking the kids with here there will be no problems. She will just have to get whatever assignments they will have prior to leaving, maybe even set up emails to the teacher if there will be computer available. My niece has a laptop just for those purposes. Both her and her ex husband travel alot for their jobs and can't always rely on the other one to be there to take care of the kids. So when the kids go with either mom or dad they take the laptop and stay in touch with their teachers and on top of their assignments that way...funny thing, her youngest who is in the 5th grade, usually gets lower grades when they are home than when he is on the road..go figure.
2007-01-25 17:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many days has the children missed already? She may have to go before the school board to ask for the days off. It is concerning a family health issue and they have 3 bereavement days afforded to them that are excused. If she can get class and homework beforehand it would help the children adjust back in the class. If they cant maybe if she has Internet access overseas maybe the teacher can email the assignment to her email and she could print them up for the kids. Either way school work needs to be done. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-25 14:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by momof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The chance to see their grandma at this point is a once in a lifetime opportunity.
If my work said I couldn't leave to go see my grandma for two weeks while she was on her death bed.. hell. I'd say see ya! That's a life moment that can't be missed.
I'm surprised the school said 5 days? I've known a kid that missed 33 where I live and somehow he was still able to get by.
Whenever I knew I was going to miss school back in the day, my mother was able to just get my assignments ahead of time and made sure I did it while we were gone.
I can't believe the school is being THAT strict about it. Unless they've missed other days?
2007-01-25 14:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be wrong NOT to take them. If they bring their school work along with them and the school completely knows where the kids are and what they are doing they won't fall that far behind.
This may be one of the last opportunities to see their grandmother so I think the mother should take them.
2007-02-01 01:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by ohenry524 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son has missed school since last friday due to being really sick. They (school) cannot do anything about it because he has a doctor's excuse for all the days he has missed.
I would say if they done anything to your friend it would be a fine then maybe a court date. But if you have good reason to not come to school and have proof of whatever it is then they can't do anything.
2007-01-25 19:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as she sets it up with the principal and teachers then its fine if she gets their homework so by the time they go back they are not behind. In cases like this the principal will understand and the nurse really has no say in it.
2007-01-25 15:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the chrildren go it would be ...Nurses are not allways right,one told us not to bother taking my grandson to the dr,s he fell from the top of the monkey bars,two black eyes.smach ed face,black and blue from for head to bottom or chin.and he did this at school. no2.told us he did not need glasses, when hes ped.told us to take him to the eye dr,when he went back to school.she{the nurse} called and said I SAID HE DOSE NOT NEED THEM>no trouble..for two weeks.long field trip.just take work..
2007-01-31 13:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure what the school policy is or disciplinary actions are but they do make exceptions we live in Illinois my little brother was 7 when my dad passed away and he was out of school for a couple of weeks the school was very understanding and let him make up all of his work
2007-01-25 14:48:00 · answer #11 · answered by youhoo it's me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋