2007-01-25 14:12:36 · 17 answers · asked by Amy T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You'll need to check with the minister/pastor of the church you attend to see what their specific requirements are.
2007-01-25 23:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They won't in some churches. It really depends. The church I attended growing up would not do this and insisted that couples who lived together before marriage had to stop living together for a few weeks to a few months before the ceremony and during the 'pre-marital counselling' otherwise the pastor would refuse to marry them!
In other churches, it's not so strict. If you don't have a specific church you want to get married in, shop around and ask the preachers after church about marrying there.
As for marrying in white, it has nothing to do with virginity or how many partners you've had! If that were the case, barely anyone would be 'allowed' a white wedding dress. The tradition actually stems from victorian women wanting to prove that they are rich by marrying in dress so unpractical in colour!
2007-01-25 23:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will honestly depend on the church, and the individual preacher/pastor within the church. Some churches may ask you to attend marriage preparation classes--which is really a good idea, even if you do already live together. I would just ask around. If anyone in your family attends church regularly, I'd start there--tell the preacher "I'm so and so's daughter/neice/sister/whatever..." Best of luck to you!
2007-01-25 22:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have a problem. My fiance and I have 2 children together and we have lived together for 4 years. I am Catholic and he is not. We are getting married in the Catholic Church. Good luck! If a preacher tells you no because you are living together just move along and remember it is 2007! Congratulations!
2007-01-25 22:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, it definately can be done..I DID IT.. My hubby and I lived together for 5 years b/f we got married and we got married in a church! Most people now a days live together before marriage!
I would be upfront about it with the precaher/pastore.clergy, etc. and if they are not OK with this then move on to another church. I promise you most will not make issue of this.
2007-01-25 23:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by tara t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the same thing when I met with the priest for our Catholic wedding. Turns out more churches (or maybe it was just this one) are joining the 21st century and realizing that more couples are living together first before marriage. We did a compatibility questionnaire and there was a specific section for co-habitation. I was all ready to give my mom's address for mine if they wouldn't accept the living together scenario.
Just ask!
2007-01-26 10:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by ziggyzp77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lived with my fiance for 4 or more years. we had no problem getting married in a church.
We were married in a Lutheran church. It's Catholic-light, all the ceremony and half the guilt.
: )
2007-01-26 04:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by MommyToo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely, wait- which church??? If the preacher gives you marriage counseling- probably otherwise look in the yellow pages for wedding services
2007-01-25 23:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by know it all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. Most places want you to attend their church or go to "counseling" sessions before they will agree to marry you. I got so frustrated I decided to have my wedding at an outdoor location. Good Luck!
2007-01-25 22:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by jimmiefan1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people who lived together weren't allowed to get married in a church there wouldn't be many marriages.
2007-01-25 22:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be fine just talk to the church. If your boyfriend is the only man you have ever been with you should be able to get married in white.
2007-01-25 22:37:40 · answer #11 · answered by needanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋