how does a woman,make a man understand that one day was enuff for me to know i dont want to go out with him?

Question

any more,he is persistant,my god,he is asking me all the time lets go out again,pm me on my emails and calling me,how do i stop this?

Answer 1

You want friendship; he or she wants more. How to draw the line without making future encounters awkward?
Instructions
•STEP 1: Try subtle hints that let the other party know that you're not interested in romance. For instance, "I really value our friendship" (with emphasis on "friend"), or "It's so nice to have a guy/girl friend who I can talk to without any kind of romantic tension to get in the way."
•STEP 2: Mention that you're involved with someone else (assuming that's true) if the other party is a new acquaintance and shows unwanted romantic interest.
•STEP 3: Tell the person up front that you enjoy being single right now and are not looking for a romantic partner, but that you're always looking for new friends.
•STEP 4: Make a joke out of your rejection if the person is an older friend: "We'd never make a good couple; we know each other's hang-ups too well - there'd be nothing to argue about!"
•STEP 5: Be honest and tell your friend why you don't think a relationship would work out, unless the real reason is that you aren't attracted to him or her. Even the closest of buddies would have a hard time rekindling a friendship after such a harsh rejection.
•STEP 6: Change the subject after you've dashed the notion of romance and try to forget about what just happened. Dwelling on the reasons why you don't want to get involved with a friend won't do the friendship any good.
•STEP 7: Enjoy the friendship as you always have.
Tips & Warnings
•If your friend persists in trying to become romantically involved with you after you've established your boundaries, reconsider if this person really is your friend. Real friends respect boundaries; they don't try to knock them down.

Answer 2

If you are truly not interested. Don't respond to his emails. If you have caller id, ignore the call. If he comes by don't engage in conversation even to tell him you're not interested. There are men who can not or will not accept "No".

By giving him any attention or response even negative attention or responses is sometimes enough to keep him going.

Now if he simply won't go away after being ignored, you may have a serious problem. You need to tell as many people about the situation as soon as possible to protect yourself. So other people know that you have a problem with this person. Because he may be telling others a different story.

Answer 3

Send him a CERTIFIED LETTER (and also an emailing informing him of this) requesting that he CEASE and DESIST from ALL FURTHER CONTACT or else you will be forced to pursue a RESTRAINING ORDER and/or sue him for SEXUAL HARASSMENT and all legal expenses involved.

State that this letter serves as your last attempt to resolve this matter civilly and amicably "in good faith" without incurring legal expenses to either party, and failure to comply with your request will be grounds to file a complaint with the police and charge him for expenses associated with a court order and attorney's fees.

BTW if he continues to "harass" you, you can file a complaint with the police dept. which is different from formal charges. I know one woman who complained of abuse or harassment and it sent a strong enough message that the guy took it seriously and quit. So it didn't cost either of them the money to go to court with legal actions. So that is another option, though I think for this level of harassment, civil law applies but not criminal law unless he makes a threat to physically harm, abuse or kill you.

If you send a CERTIFIED LETTER then you have proof for the court that you did try to resolve the matter amicably to avoid legal action and attorney's fees. Mentioning this usually gets people to stop it, because courts and attorneys are expensive and hassling.

Answer 4

If you have told him straight up that you don't want to go out with him and he still keeps bugging you then you have a problem. Can you change your phone number, if so do it, send him a final e-mail telling him you don't want to go out with him and you have no interest in seeing or hear from him again, keep a copy of it then block his e-mails.

If he keeps trying you may have to get a restraining order against him.

Luck

Answer 5

For goodness sakes, tell him to leave you alone and that you are not interested!!!!!!!!!! That should be easy enough to write down in an email and to tell him in person especially if you truly feel this way. Just tell him the truth.

Answer 6

Sometimes you have to be really firm and except it not to be friendly.

Just say something like....we went out and on my side I don't want to go out again....so do not contact me again.

Then walk away....make sure to do this in a public place with a friend somewhere in the vicinity.

Then do not respond to anything he sends you....if necessary change your phone number.

Answer 7

Tell him you are not interested in anymore than just friends and he persists--you won't even be taht. Then tell him to stop calling and sending you e-mails--period.

Answer 8

Just say NO until he stops. Don't try to be nice, he's obviously not getting your hints, but don't be mean either. Go for honest, and straightforward, not too many big words, but no hesitation in your voice.

Answer 9

Maybe try straight out telling him instead of avoiding the issue?

Answer 10

I think the easist way is to tell him you found someone new and aren't interested anymore in him, and never will be again.,