Military Spouses?

Question

How do you deal with deployment?

Answer 1

You have to support him and the troops. You also have to support George Walker Bush. Welcome to the family!!!!

JW

Answer 2

I am on the end of my first year deployment, and it was a crazy one!! I found out I was pregnant 2 days after my husband left, and then miscarried a month later. But after all the tears and hell of them not being here, I still walked with my head up and dealt with what was dealt to me. I moved to the states for the year because we are stationed in Germany, I got a job when I got there and kept really busy with that so my mind was busy focusing on something other than him being gone. I though the year would never end and I was dreading it, but now that I am about 2 weeks from having him home, I look back and think, wow...it flew! If you are a military spouse going through a deployment....take care and good luck!! Keep busy busy busy!!!

Answer 3

On the first deployment I cried like a baby... For days! I was pathetic. By the time my hubby retired I was dropping him off in front and waving goodbye as I drove off. LOL The first month and the last month are the hardest. The secret is to fill up your time. Volunteer, go take a course at the local college, or get a part time job. And the best advice I can offer is to stay out of bars. So many of my young wives got into that way. It really will get easier.

Answer 4

It is true that the first month is the hardest. Anything could happen and you won't know for a while and you start to freak out. I think I'm dealing with it good, I still have to hold back the tears in public when I see or hear about fallen troops or other things related to the military. I do hate how the civilian wives are all "sad" that they don't get to see their husbands for a measley three days. I wouldn't even notice if he was gone that long. My friend actually was tore up about not being able to see her husband @ 5pm and had to wait until 7pm in the same day!!

Answer 5

Was your Hiusband in the military when you met? Did the two of you talk about this before hand? Don't be insecure. The man has a job to do and he needs your support. Get on with you day to day life. Go to work, take care of yourself, your children and keep things together here at home. He is depending on your strength too. Absense will make your hearts stronge. Don't be messin around. It is tough, I know, but support your marriage be the best ever by being here when he comes home expecting his loving wife.

Answer 6

Smart spouses keep busy. They join with other military spouses to form support groups and help each other with kids, medical appointments, baby-sitting, etc. Get involved with volunteer work if you don't have a job outside the home. Get involved with church, clubs, etc. Do NOT go 'clubbing' as that will just throw temptation in your way. Another man is NOT the cure for loneliness!!

Answer 7

As others have said keep yourself busy and the time flies, if you don't keep yourself busy you go insane.

I too hate it when my civilian friends freak out when their husbands are an hour or two late coming home from work. I feel like telling them
"When you haven't seen your husband for 6 months to a year, because he has been overseas, and his flight is an hour or two late coming in then you can complain about it, until then I really don't want to hear about it."
But I don't say it because I am nicer than that.

Answer 8

Spouses have no choice when their partners are deployed to Iraq. Thus, they just adopt activities to be free from stress but supports the war effort with positive minds.

Answer 9

You take what life throws at you, what choice do you have. I think they call it the hand that life deals you. You learn and grow from all of it. You know its not just you and your family, its thousands. When you marry a man that's in the service or is going in, that's to be expected.

Answer 10

You wait patiently and let them know that you are there for them and you suck it up. That's what we do. You cry to your friends and family but not to him cause he's stressed out enough. You stay busy. In the big scheme of things a year is a short period of time but that year will seem to drag on and the days will seem endless. You have my prayers and I hope things go easy for you.

Answer 11

I find something to keep me busy when I get home till I go to bed. Find a hobby or something. Scapbooking if you have kids for your hubby when he get's back. Don't think about him. The more you think he's gone and away and in danger the harder it will become for you.