How do I tell my parents I am moving out?

Question

How do I tell my parents I am moving out? And, moving in with a boy not a boyfriend. We are Army buddies we have been friends for 6 years or more. I'll be 18 in february still in high school. Please Help

Answer 1

Ok, this will require some tact on your part...and be prepared for a battle and most of all...be calm...avoid getting into a SHOUTING MATCH...anger and hostility will accomplish nothing.

We know your parents are not going to take this news very well, they'll be losing their daughter and you'll be (in their eyes) vulnerable and away from the protection they have provided you all your life and especially exacerbated by the fact you're still in school.

Hopefully they will accept the news with grace and dignity and not get bent all out of shape. Expect resistance on their part as they try and talk you out of it (and realize it's because they love you).

You now need to have a calm, adult conversation with the both of them. At the next opportunity when you are all together and will not be disturbed (like at dinner for example) start the conversation with "Mom, dad, I have something important I want to tell you."

Be calm, understand their dismay at the news, talk it out with them and hopefully you can all come to an understanding as to how you all can adjust to the big change that's about to take effect.

btw...if your new roommate is not your "boyfriend" how do you propose to pay for your half of the rent/utilities etc.?
You have a job while still in high-school?

Good luck!

Answer 2

"You remember Hugh. Well, he and I feel the same about dating; always have agreed that we'd rather think long and hard, and discuss with each other, anybody we're thinking about seriously. It's as though he's my brother. I trust him and he trusts me, and we have been through the Army together, where there's no room for games.

We've decided we'd make good roommates, watching out for each other. We'll be getting an apartment when I graduate."

When you get your age objections, explain that once you're in the Army, you definitely have a head on your shoulders. The objections will continue and your answer should be repeated.

Check with your State first to be sure the law gives you legal rights at 18, rather than at 21. Also, make just as definite plans for an education, along with a job, and emphasize this doesn't change anything but geography.

Answer 3

Depending on your parents.
If they are open and loving they will listen. Ask them to sit down with you because you want to tell something. Explain your feeling of wanting not move out of the house but not out of there lives. Tell them how much you love them.
Let them know you will be inviting them over soon after you move in then do it so they know they are still in your life.

Hopefully you have brought you friend over to meet them. If not I would do it now! Parents like to know who there children are living with even if they are adult children.

If you don't want to hurt them and you want there trust (at least I think that is what your asking) invite them into your new life and more then likely you will get it.
Remember your parents were 18 once.
Good luck to the both of you.

Answer 4

talk to them as an adult. they're going to judge and scrutinize and may not listen. the best you can do is intelligently inform them that you've pondered the decision for a few months, and would like to explore what life is like away from home (for a bit) and see what a little independence is like. Assure them that you've looked into every possible situation and the positives are better than the negatives. You feel at this time of your life, [boyfriend] is a good chance for you to experiment with independence without going fully on your own so you'll have help and someone close to rely on.

Answer 5

I would be honest and simply say why I was going to move out, and be willing to discuss, negotiate, and so on.
If your parents are reasonable people they will prolly agree in the end. My twin (female) cousins did it when 18, getting a little flat together.
Both they and parents were happy when a couple months later they moved back in, saying they had no idea of the cost or how much they missed home and, er, yes, Mum!
--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 6

When I moved out, I waited till my parents went on holidays, packed an overnight bag and moved in with my boyfriend - got my sister to bring over the rest of my stuff slowly over the following weeks and told my olds I was just staying at his place...eventaully they got the hint, but if I had gone to them in the first place they'd have kicked up a stink and done everything in their power to stop me (dispite me being 19 at the time)....
Just an idea.

Answer 7

You tell them with a lot of love, understanding (on your part, since they may not be as ready as you think you are), patience, and lots of room for error. Your parents no doubt love you, and you should consider that this is probably a shock to them since you are asking this here. Have you even mentioned your plans for the future before? Just be prepared to be very mature.

Answer 8

It will be hard for them as it is 'letting their baby go'. Set up a date day/evening with them so they know u will still be coming over to spend quality time with them on a weekly basis and invite them over to your house as well. Also ask them if it doesnt work out if you can still come home...lastly, let them know that the reason you feel confident in moving out is because they taught you all that you feel to know so well you are sure you can do it but would still like to come to them for advise now and then.

Answer 9

In my opinion and probably the same as your parents, you need to finish school before you move out. After that just be straight up with them.

Answer 10

Once you are 18, just do it. They'll figure it out. Don't expect them to pay for anything, though. Have fun and don't let the door hit you in the a ss on the way out!