imma tell it like it iz a interracial realationship marriage what ever you wanna call it and my dad dont approve of him.. he wont even meet him at all... and my fiance wants to meet him really bad... what do i do...?
2007-01-25 13:28:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You really need to have a heart to heart with your dad. This is the man you want to marry and unfortunately if this doesn't get resolved your going to be split between these two men forever. You need to let your dad know that you need him to respect your decision. Your dad doesn't have to love your finance but they should learn to have mutual respect for one another.. Also try getting your mom and if you have a pastor to help you out... Maybe someone neutral can mediate a meeting or something.
2007-01-25 14:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by Queen K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW, there is absolutely nothing wrong with an interracial relationship today, only in very small minded people's eyes. Now, if there's another reason your father doesn't like your fiancee, such as no job, can't support you, past drug use, has cheated, etc., then I can see him not supporting the marriage, but if your fiance is a good guy, then your dad is the one with the problem here, not you, and not your fiance. I would try to talk to your dad and mom, explain to both of them how much your dad's actions are hurting you. Tell them both about the good qualities your man has. But, if worse comes to worse, and your dad just won't come around, your first loyalty is always to your spouse, always, always, always. Don't let anyone, including your father, come between you and your husband once you're married. If that means you guys just don't see much of your dad, then so be it, it's your dad's choice, not yours. Hopefully your dad will come around.
2007-01-25 14:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your father is prejudiced. Likely he won't get over it just because you are married. Accept his position, and get on with your life. He's the one short-sighted, and will miss out on the best time of being a father... and probably a grandfather too.
Try as best as you can to maintain a father/daughter relationship, but I wouldn't press the subject of your marriage. If -when, the inevitible happens, and your new hubby have a love spat... don't take your troubles to daddy. He'll just say something hurtful.
I wish you the best....
2007-01-25 13:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by bakfanlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how your fiance feels, but don't push this with Dad. If he disapproves, then he disapproves. Tell him you're sorry he feels the way he does; that you would like to share this grand event of your life with him. He'll either come around or he won't.
You & your finace/husband will have to accept how your dad feels and go on with your lives. Your loyalty is now to each other.
This is a shame, too, because everyone involved loses.
2007-01-25 13:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your dad won't show up as a grown up then there's nothing you can do.
Continue with your plans and just exclude your father.
It's not the best situation, but you can't make people do anything....you can only control what you do.
Your marrying this guy....tell him the truth and then get married.
2007-01-25 14:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ask a question on a public, open dialogue board and then pre-emptively tell every person who could no longer consider your stupid possibilities to take it up the @ss? If no longer something had confident me what a bad concept this entire undertaking is, your immaturity and purely outright brattiness could have cinched the deal for me. you have lots growing to be as much as do.
2016-11-01 07:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. Get married and be a truly loving couple. When you father sees how happy you are, he will come around. Take care.
2007-01-25 14:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try your best to explain to your fiance without telling any lies. Try to persuade your mom to talk to your dad
2007-01-25 13:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by besha08 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR DAD FOR BEING SO INGNORANT. I GET SO SAD FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE SO CLOSED MINDED THEY ARE MISSING OUT ON SO MUCH. BEING SHALLOW NEVER GOT ANYONE ANYWHERE. I WOULD TELL HIM IF HE EVER CHANGES HIS MIND TO LET YOU KNOW, AND GO ABOUT MY PLANS. HE NEEDS TO CHANGE ON HIS OWN YOU CAN'T MAKE HIM. aCT AS IF IT IS NO BIG DEAL TO YOU.
2007-01-25 13:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋