I don't mean physical punishment, which I don't agree with anyway, but grounding and taking away privileges and that sort of thing.
2007-01-25 13:19:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If they don't, then the kids will disrespect the step parent, thinking they can get away with anything but if they do, then the kids will fight back because the kids are the step's true kids. So, the step parent has to be witht he natural parents when they start disciplining at first but the step parents should talk to their kids and remind the kids that they should respect. Step parents not only should discipline, they should also have fun witht the kids. They also should take the kids to the park, buy ice cream, and stuff like that.
2007-01-25 14:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by seksy4life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read a really good book that studied types of step families and success rates of each type. The study concluded that really becoming an integrated family after remarriage takes an average of 4 years. During this initial period, stepparents should be there more in a supportive role, leaving the discipline to the biological parent. If the bio parent isn't home, the stepparent can enforce predetermined rules, but cannot make his own. If a stepparent tries to come in and take over discipline, there will usually be stress and fighting over this and resentment from the children. I think the best approach is to try to be a friend and let the relationship grow into what it will.
2007-01-25 13:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because the family is as a unit. If you don't, then what kind of respect are you getting? The family as a unit should include you as the parent, whether or not it is a step parent, and should be equally respected. If not, the child, or children not have any respect for you and will walk all over you.
2007-01-25 13:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Weasel Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think they should be allowed to discipline them. It will cause upset in the home. Step children are already feeling upset about the changes in their lives w/o the added hurt of having someone come in and take over the disciplining of them. In my house, my hubby tells my boys to stop doing something if they are not supposed to be doing it, but he doesn't ground or take away privileges, that is up to me to dispense. Though my hubby and I discuss discipline, he is a part of it, he just doesn't hand down the verdict.
2007-01-25 13:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Does that step-parent provide you with shelter/food/entertainment. All the things a natural parent
does? Is that step-parent being mean or critical of you?
Most step-parents try to do their best, but most step-kids
hate them because they are not "real" parents. Talk to him/her
and try to treat them with respect. You will probably have them
for quite some time--or not.
2007-01-25 13:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single father with a four year old. I am engaged. My daughter's natural mother has abandoned her. I expect my fiance to be the mother of my child. As such, she shall have authority to discipline as she sees fit. The key is to know that your spouse is really looking out for your child's best interest. My fiance and my daughter love each other, of that I have no doubt. I know that my fiance will be right and fair with her discipline and I expect my daughter to abide by what she says.
2007-01-25 13:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by mac&cheese 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes, i think they should have the same rights as the other parent.....my daughter is 2 years old and my soon to be husband discipline's her just like i would....but of course that is who she knows as daddy.....her sperm donor has nothing to do with, doesn't know her name or has ever seen her....so my fiancee is her father and he spanks her if she is naughty just like i would and takes away privileges and stuff and will continue to do so....so i think step parents should have equally rights to disciplining the children
2007-01-25 13:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by blah blah blah 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes ... children tend to walk over their step parents ... but since they live with them they should be allowed to punish them.
2007-01-25 15:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course. In the absence of the real parent, someone else has to do the "dirty" job. Frankly, I'd NEVER like to take on this kinda responsibility for someone else, if I can help it because the step child will never appreciate it and may even hate you yet, if you don't do it, you will still be viewed as the bad parent.
2007-01-25 13:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by PikC 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm telling you from raising them that they have to have discipline. It doesn't matter if they are step-children or not. They do seem to be manipulative if things don't go their way.
2007-01-25 14:08:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋