okey so. in high school. got a man. luv my man. he luv me. nothing sexual. parents. obviously think we f*** everytym we see eachother. which we dont.
so how would one go about trying to explain. from a "young adult's" point of view. that we jus' like to hang out together. preferrably without people walking in every 5 mins interrupting what were trying to say.
** i know my spellings off.
2007-01-25 13:18:42 · 13 answers · asked by jazz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Invite him over for dinner or a barbeque or some other appropriate social setting to allow both sets of parents to get to know you and him better. Mature conversation between you and his parents and him and yours will (hopefully) make them see his and your true character and values.
Basically, you must earn each others' parents' trust by making them understand that your relationship is governed by mutually agreable values which preclude pre-marital sex. Also, make absolutely sure they have no reason to think you are hiding something.
Good luck!
2007-01-25 13:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, I was in your situation when I was your age. It is hard. I think they are just trying to protect you. You have a bright future (with plenty of other guys you will meet along the way) and they don't want anything to go wrong. For some reason parents think kids don't understand about protection or sex if they decided to have sex. You have decided not to, which is great by the way. But because I am a parent now, I now finally understand what they went through. This is not your case but I told my parents I wasn't having sex and when I was too. So I think parents want to know just so your careful and safe.
Even if you tell them your not, they are going to think you are anyway. Just let them have their say, and hopefully they will let you have yours. Also, when the times comes be safe!
2007-01-25 13:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by bornalib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that you are now mature enough to have a relationship where you just like to talk and hang out with the other guy. If you still can't convince them, why don't you just be good friends with the guy right now, and maybe your parents will change their minds later. Besides, you're not doing anything sexual, so it really doesn't matter if you guys are going out or not, right?
2007-01-25 13:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents always think or expect the "worse". I think it is great you two are in love but do not need to be physical and sexual, at least not all the way or whatever. Neither of you two can prove only what you two know to be the truth. However, talking calmly and respectfully to your parents together will show a lot of maturity on your behalves. If you do decide to be physical, talk to your parents so they know at least you are mature and responsible enough to realize you need some birth control and or advice. Parents like their children to come to them to talk so go to them and explain. That is all you can do, the rest is up to them to believe or not. At least you tried.
2007-01-25 13:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by crackermelons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell you to talk to them about it, but if you have really strict parents like mine, it won't work... I've tried it a few times, and they're still crazy. I'm almost 22 and I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and they're just now letting up a little... and I feel like I have to basically do what they say b/c they're paying for my college... it sucks. Good luck with it though, I hope it goes better for you than it did for me!
2007-01-25 13:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal teen thing is to accuse others of having sex if they are with another for very long and especialy if they are together often. I doubt if there is anything you can do about it. If you say something they most likely will chide you more so just do your living the way you want and let them do theirs.
2007-01-25 13:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you say it pretty well in your last sentance. But as a parent it is still hard to let your little girls grow up I know. I wish you luck girl.
2007-01-25 13:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by stormyblythe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as u both know the truth...i wouldn't bother abt what other people may think..as long im not doing anything wrong.
but if both of u decided 2 come across the line..it's ur decisions not theirs,not even ours,it's all abt u & him.hope this helps.goodluck!
2007-01-25 13:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by nex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're so sensible you could try talking to them directly. Failing that, put a peep hole in your door so they can look in without disturbing you.
2007-01-25 13:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by charlie at the lake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them that u think ur old enough to have some privacy and if they dont like it u will go to their house
2007-01-25 13:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋