He told me last weekend it was over.
It wasnt a nasty split... no arguments or fall out... he just said he wants to be single again and he cant handle missing me as his work means he works away.
I accepted it and respected his decision, and didnt ring or text.
Today he rang and said he been thinking about me in the week and that he is an idiot...., but he hasnt said he is sorry, or made a mistake or wants me back. He is coming home this weekend and wants to see me to talk.
What is going on in this mans head?
2007-01-25 12:59:06 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Romance has its ups and downs. Don't feel dejected by him trying to find himself, or to ascertain his emotions. Its kind of nice in a way that he is assessing himself.
See what he has got to say, after all he is coming, he missed you, lot of positives... wait and see at this point. He says he feels like an idiot.... hell, thats a way of an apology in some books.
If he is merely coming to empty his bags, then you do need to reconsider your long term relationship. Tho I don't think its that.
Wait and see, but stay in control of yourself.
Andy
2007-01-25 13:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by PatentlyAndy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well done for not being in touch with him for a week - you have just done the single most effective thing in flaming a guy's fervour.
Now, before you do anything else, you have to consider these possibilities:
1. He wanted time away from you because he was feeling suffocated?
2. He was going after something else and wanted to clear the decks - but it didn't work out?
3. He genuinely did want to give the single life a try and found it wasn't all it was cracked up to be - so better the devil you know?
To be honest, I don't think I would be happy to accept any of these scenarios and I think your best course of action is to tell him you don't want him back - even if you do! You have seen how a week's silence from you can have an effect on him - now make it three. See what he does in that time. If he loves you, he will move mountains to get you back. If he was just taking you for granted, he will soon find someone else.
The ball is entirely in your court. Do what you know is going to be best for you.
2007-01-25 18:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh heh heh! I think the above answers that reference "Bonus Night" are probably spot-on!
Well, if he is just wanting to "park the pigskin bus in tuna town", the easiest way to counter that is to agree to go back out with him (if that's what you want) and put him on a month waiting list before ANY sexual activity happens. If it is just a physical thing he's wanting, he will clear off again rather than wait.
You have to admit though, "just to be single again" is a dodgy reason. There is a more quantitive reason why he did finish with you - whether you want to know or not is another thing, but maybe it would be worth asking this when you meet up with him.
Good luck girl!
2007-01-25 13:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by mrWerd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find myself going both ways on this one. So I guess I will answer it this way.
Everyone deserves a second chance but he was a bit rash in just TELLING you he wanted to be single without talking it out with you to say why.
So, tell him that you need a few weeks to think about it and then tell him to give you a call in two weeks if he is still interested.
He will either call being all sweet or he will just blow you off.
Men get lonely for a woman so he might just be calling you back to get some lovin cause he is horny.
Make him wait for two weeks. As a Guy I know WE HATE WAITING but we do WAIT for someone we really like and want to be with.
2007-01-25 13:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by CTM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. How are you feeling about this. Me, I'd have to say chill out for a couple of months and then revisit how we feel about each other after we've been separated for awhile. In the meantime, go out and have a blast somewhere or go to a spa and get yourself pampered. I don't think it's right that he's running cold and hot on you.
2007-01-25 13:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve a gold star. I bet the fact that you didn't call or text him really got to him! It didn't look like it was any shirt off of your back and that you weren't waiting around for him.
Don't let him play mind games. If he wants to get back together, don't make it easy on him, either. Try not to look to eager. Take it slowly, make him prove himself.
2007-01-25 13:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leme answer this question with the right answer.
the man forgot to do something before he left you. kno what i mean. thats the only reason he wants to put his troops back in the field, so that he can have sex with you once he does. its mission accomplished and were going home.
thats how it is. he thinks he is has to do it in order for it to be a worthy withdrawal
2007-01-25 13:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, he stil loves you, a lot. but talk with him and really ask him , and dont be afraid to get things out of him. because u should really no why he left and what's going on in his head. good luck! :)
2007-01-25 13:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is Horney
truth
peace out
2007-01-25 13:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo Answer Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just coming home to get his bags emptied.
He is rather emotionally manipulative, that one.
He can't handle missing you? .. I have heard it all now.
2007-01-25 13:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋