2007-01-25 12:55:24 · 6 answers · asked by lucky07 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I'm so sorry for you....Losing a parent suddenly is very hard. My dad died suddenly of a heart attack. It was quite a shock. I ask myself...which is better an illness that keeps them lingering so I can say my goodbyes, even though they suffer or a sudden death with no suffering? The sudden death is certainly easier on the person who dies...but I never got to say good bye. I suspect that that is probably the worst thing for you. Not to mention that your mom was very young - so must you be. Even if you are in your 30's , you still need your mom at that age. I know - I'm in my 40's and I still need my dad. My greatest comfort is that I know I will see him again one day.
To answer your question...it just takes time - talk about her, that helps. Do a scrapbook. Look at some of the ones on Shutterfly.com. You can have a hardbound photobook with 20 pages of pictures and text for around $20.00. It is fun to do and will give you something to hold on to. When my cousin's mother died she got into geneology and traced our family tree back to the 1600's in France. That was very therapeutic for her. Everyone has to work through their grief in their own way. Try joining a grief support group. Many churches in medium to large cities have them.
2007-01-25 13:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by PRS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel im so sorry for you ,my mother died suddnely of stomach and brain cancer 3 months ago she was a fit and healthy lady age 67 with no symptoms at all she was my best friend and i cry everday,but everyday gets better its still early days but i feel she left me her strength,and wisdom im sure time will help us get through this, god bless xx
2007-01-26 05:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother means a lot to me, and I know how I'd feel if she passed away. I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.
It's possible a grief counselor might be able to help you transition through this difficult time.
Do you believe in God? He promises us that we can be reunited with our loved ones in Heaven. I, for one believe that.
Best of luck in this trying time.
And remember, our challenges either build character or reveal it. Again, best of luck.
2007-01-25 21:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my mom just died as well, at 1 am to be precise now at 630 after my baby sister pulled the plug on her, i dont have any money to get home and to hear she has a massive stroke, and a bleed over 5 cm , they say she died instantly but stayed on machine and would never recover. bad thing is, that we fought so much, i was the black sheep, but as the oldest i am lost i have always tried to please her and now at 53, fell over in walmart, when she felt fine, i dont know what to do, 8 hours from there and dont know what to do...............
2007-01-28 06:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by pandrous07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about your mum. I am undergoing grief counselling which helps.It may help you to to talk about your feelings.You can take only one day at a time.
2007-01-25 21:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it day by day...be really strong and be there for your mom. good luck..God Bless
2007-01-25 21:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanette M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋