alirte..this one is about my "mom" and the reason i put "mom" is because i feel that she really isnt my mom anymore....yes i do love her more than anyone in the world...but i am only 15 yr's old and well my mom has a gambling problem...she never comes home to make supper..spend time with me and my sisters ....if i do see her it would be in the morning before i go to school...but just the other day i said to her "mom i need you to get grocries" and she said "yeh well its not my responsiblity"...i dont no how she could say that...i feel like she doesnt care...she never ever use to be like this till about 6 months ago..and now its bad...and i wanted to get out of my house for a while to relieve all the stress and emotions i have..i wanted to go to my friends house for 4 days which is about 30 mins from my house..but the other nite when i asked my mom she said "NO" rite away cause she thinks my friend is "bad" but she really isnt...how do i tell her this and get her to say yes thats fine?
2007-01-25 12:25:49 · 8 answers · asked by Cutie101 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ask help for your mother, maybe to the counselor at your school, or some Church nearby, because she has and addiction, and need therapy
2007-01-25 12:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by pelancha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if you can set time aside for a talk. Tell her your point of view. Talk with your school counselor about what is going on at home. I know you don't want to hear this, but it sounds like you want the best of both worlds. You want to control your own life, but you want your mom to wait on you. Take some incentive and help her with the groceries (at least make a list) and other household chores. Your mom knows what is best for you right now. Accept that, but know that in a few years you can do whatever you want.
2007-01-25 12:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "mom" needs help. There are organizations, I know that the thought of talking with strangers seems a little harsh, maybe even a betrail, but in the long run, you and your family will not have to lose everything before she realizes she has a problem herself. If you are not getting the basic care, ie roof over your head, a safe place to sleep and proper food to eat, then you may need to contact child services. It will get your moms attention and hopefully the help you all need to learn to communicate and have a happy family. She might get mad at you, but that's OK, you still have a chance to build a real relationship with her. If she continues, you will lose all faith in her and lose valuable time for both of you. Be brave and be smart.
2007-01-25 12:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by ccarla57 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to an adult about your mom- a counselor at school or a minister. It sounds like she needs some help. What happened 6 months ago? Good luck
2007-01-25 13:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what a horrible addiction and a burden it can be when a parent has a gambling problem - my Dad is a gambler. What can you do for your Mom is just pray - Pray to God to give her guidance and wisdom to choose right from wrong and for this addiction to somehow stop. Search for resources and there are plenty 800 numbers and local gambling addiction help meetings that your mom can attend.
2007-01-25 12:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk. Tell her you think she has an addiction. She might get upset initially because she won't want to admit she has a problem, but do bring it to her attention.
If this doesn't work, perhaps you have a family member (grandparent, aunt, uncle) that can talk to her?
Good luck
2007-01-25 12:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its really that stressful tell her how you feel. There are so many questions... Where is your father, are there any family members that can talk her or you, why 6 months ago, can't you talk to a counselor?
2007-01-25 12:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by Kewee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your mother...giver her a hug..talk to her.tell her how much u miss her..and u don't really know what to do..u don't know anything anymore...life is tough on u..and there's no one who u can talk to.ask her if u can help her out and what she needs.If she's into gambling and is seriously addicted to it..u need to counsel her...make her understand...take it slow and easy.If that doesn't help...take her to a professional counselor.dun give up.u r a strong girl and life is beautiful.good luck:)
2007-01-25 12:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋