im 13 and my serious boyfriend is 16 and me and him both want to have kids. and we both know that we are young but me and him want to get married . and we really want children....now! and i know that all the bad things could happened and my family and my friends and my school and i know there is complications but i dont know i really want kids HELP ME PLEASE WHAT SHOULD I DO?!
2007-01-25 11:26:34 · 14 answers · asked by Mishalova 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It sounds cute and fun to have a kid. They can be really great. However, they are much less fun when you are in your position. My best suggestion is to talk to another teenager who has a kid. They will tell you what it is really like. Planned Parenthood has some support groups. Call and ask them if there is a teenager who would be willing to talk to you.
2007-01-25 12:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by Medical Disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi angel. I am a grandmother and I have had three children of my own, plus raised another two besides. I understand what you are going through it is quite common for a girl of your age to feel this way, but don't you think that you should have more life experiences before you bring another human being into this world
Its sounds like you are lonely and are looking for someone to love you unconditionally, having a baby at your age is not the answer angel, it is a big responsibility to have to care for and pay for another human being, as a baby is totally dependent on its parents for everything 24/7! and that is a hard job even for a person that is 25 to30 years old, you sound like a loving little girl,and I am sure you would want the best for any child that you might have in the future, but if you want the best for any baby that you might have then you need to be able to provide for that child, and that means putting a child's needs before your own.Get an education so that you can earn enough to raise a child and above all live your life and grow up responsible first, I'm sure your parents love their baby too let them finish their job of raising you. Otherwise youre going to be robbing them of the very thing that you want for yourself one day. I hope that I have been able to help a little,and one day when you are a lot older you will be a very good mother.Also many girls that are sexually active at a very young age are at high risk of developing cancer of the cervix, please speek to a counceller or a minister or an adult the you can trust before you do anything that you might regret! you are only 13 years old and your boyfriend can be charged with serious charges if you go ahead.
2007-01-25 21:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by christine s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babysit and avoid having sex. That's the best advise I can give you. Having a baby it not fun when you are 13 and it is still a lot of work when you are not. Being a mother means doing what is best for your child and giving them the best life possible. Realistically you will not be with the same guy in the next 5 years and then what happens to the baby when you guys are having drama because he is with someone else. What about getting an education (college) so you can feed and clothe your child? What about growing up so you will not resent your child for not letting you have fun as a teen? What about growing up so you can mak e good choices for your baby? Get a puppy if you want unconditional love and the responsibility of feeding and getting up poop all day! Seriously. You could not even drive your baby to the ER if he/she was sick!
2007-01-28 20:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by silentstorm025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself a few questions. Why do you really want children? Is it so your boyfriend will "stay with you always"? Because they don't necessarily do that hun. Is it so you'll have someone to love or love you unconditionally? There are many children who don't love thier parents and vice versa. Do you think you can support a child at only 13? Do you even have a job? What about school? Without a high school diploma, you almost can't get any type of job. I would wait. WAIT WAIT WAIT.
2007-01-25 19:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by arfiegel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 years old how are you going to support yourself never mind a kid.
Does your bf work? Can he afford an apartment? have a car? buy you clothes.
Realistic you are too too young to have kids. You are still a kid yourself. ENJOY being a teenager ..........
DO not rush into having sex with your bf. If he loves you, he will encourage you to go to school and not having kid.
Tell your bf that you want to have a 16 sweet party, go to JR promp and SR prompt and attends graduation. You do not want kids or you will miss out all these while your friends have the times of their life ............When you sitting home caring for your child when your bf left you and making out with another girl.
THINK logic
2007-01-25 19:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by solitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-26 18:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by Garnet A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u would be crazy to try to have kids now especially at 13 yrs. old u say u know all the horrible things that could happen but it's obvious u dont know enough. wat would happen if u had the child and your boyfriend doesnt want the baby or u. it would be so easy for him to leave u taking care of the baby. this is something u shouldn't be considering at all right now.
2007-01-25 19:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by nys1star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must know you are too young to be having a baby! if you care at all about any future children, don't you want to bring them into a stable marriage at a place in life when you have the maturity to care for the child properly.
2007-01-25 19:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THE ARE VERY CUTE, YES BUT I KNOW YOU ARE NOT READY. YOU THINK YOU ARE BUT... YOUR NOT. I AM 13 TOO BUT EVEN THOUGH I DO NOT HAVE ONE AND I WON'T HAVE ONE TILL I AM IN MY LATE 20'S AT LEAST. I KNOW IT IS HARD TO TAKE CARE OF ON E AND YOU HAVE TO SUPPORT IT AND YOU HAVE TO DO YOUR EJECTION FIRST! EVEN IF YOU BOYFRIEND GETS A JOB.. YOU WON'T LAST. IF YOU HAVE A BABY KNOW I KNOW THAT YOU , YOUR BABY, AND YOUR HUSBAND WON'T LAST. (THAT IS ONLY IF YOU HAVE A FAMILY). TAKE MY ADVICE PLEASE I AM 13 TOO. JUST WAIT. YOUR LIFE WILL BE MORE PLEASE ANT WHEN YOU WAIT. DON'T HAVE A BABY. FAMILY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN A BOYFRIEND. FAMILY IS THE BEST THING YOU WILL EVER HAVE. IF YOU HAVE A BABY FOR SHORE IT WILL CHANGE I BEET. PLEEEEASE TAKE MY ADVICE DO DO IT YET
2007-01-25 20:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do that, trust me its a big headache to raise childern, my friend is a mother of 2 and had her childern when she was 15. Its a huge responsibility, and at your age I don't think you should have kids. The rest is up to you.
2007-01-25 20:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by αѕĸ ғor тнe тrυтн 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋