My auntie wants me to participate in her birthday activities which will include me, her my sister my cousin and a girl that I feel disrespected me and I just don't won't to deal with her. That's were the problem comes in. I don't want to go and my aunt really wants me to go. She even sent me a card and little balloon asking me to come. I explain to her that I don't feel confortable around her niece and I don't want to go, but she isist that I should go. I want to show my love for my aunt and that I do care about her. I really don't want to go though. How can I get out of this?????
2007-01-25 11:20:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go to the party for your Auntie, and if she starts sh*t, tell her something like " I am here to celebrate Auntie ______'s Birthday with HER, have a little respect for her and shut your mouth if you're going to be so disrespectful to her guests!".
Or you can always spend most of the time around your Aunt, not give her the chance to needle you, and when she does come over, say "unless you're coming to apoligize, save your breath and my time". All else fails, ignore her and leave early.
2007-01-25 14:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by patti_jim_reynolds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to give that other girl any power. Just go. Have a good time. Let your aunt know that you love her. Forget that other person. Just ignore her. Look. There will always be people in the world - for the rest of your life that you do not always like or feel comfortable around. Are you going to let every single person you don't like spoil your good time(s)? As well as the relationship with your aunt? I don't think so! Don't let anybody mess with you. And if someone is causing you to not want to go somewhere, then they are still messing with you. YOU have the power. Take it back. Smile. Have fun and really, really, deep down, ignore this person. Be stronger that her. If you keep showing up to things that she is at and ignoring her, maybe she will eventually go away, if she does not see that she is getting on your nerves. Then it will not be any fun for her at all if she cannot get to you. Do you see what I mean?
2007-01-25 19:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Alice laughing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe thats really hard, im sorry. It totally sounds like she REALLY wants you to go, and it sounds important to her that you be there. I think that you should go, even though you dont want to.
You should try to hang around your aunt as much as possible and if that girl does anything that upsets you or whatever, kick her a$$! No really though, if she says anything/does anything. tell her to stop, and what she did was disrespectful and thats not the way your family acts. She needs to realize that she can't push you around, and whatever she did wasnt right. You need to be strong, and be the bigger person. No one has the right to make you feel the way she did. Just do what feels right, and dont let her get in the way, shes obviously not worth it. I hope everything turns out okay! good luck :)
2007-01-25 19:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by shelb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go then. Tell your aunte that you love her and will be happy to take her to lunch or diner, just the two of you, but it is not right for her to have you lower your personal values, to spend time with people you do not have respect for. Tell her that it really has nothing to do with your love for her. Then send her some flowers too.
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2007-01-25 19:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that uncomfortable than you have to choice not to go. but, if you love your auntie, and want to be there for her, then you should go. don't let the people who hurt you or disrespected you stand in your way. when you do this, you let them win. that's a terrible thing to do to yourself to let them have that power to take away things that are your rights to have and do. make up YOUR mind on why you are saying no and if it's only because of this person who disrespected you, think twice about letting her have the power to take things away from you that would make you happy to do. because, again, YOU are allowing HER to disrespect you. then, it's not her disrespecting you, but, you disrespecting yourself. just think about it about saying no to your auntie. good luck.
2007-01-25 20:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to meet her half way? If your aunt really wants you to go, perhaps she'd be willing to sit down the two of you and help work out your differences. Life's too short to hold grudges.
2007-01-25 19:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by Angie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your predicament. Can you just go for maybe an hour or so? Try not to pay attention to the girl who disrespected you. Go for your aunt.
2007-01-26 13:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to please her niece; you're going to please your aunt and you should show your love by doing just that! Holding a grudge isn't good for you. You're not being asked to be her best friend; it's just one day to celebrate your aunt's birthday. Don't try to get out of it.
2007-01-25 20:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋