im seventeen moved in with my partner at 16, my mum,sisters, brothers an dad all fell out with me cuz they hate him an now hate me, with now moved away an ive lost everyone but i couldnt live without my boyfriend as were perfect together how do i cope with this at just 17
2007-01-25 11:17:12 · 12 answers · asked by nicky g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Aw. You tried to be a big girl, and now you find that actions have consequences. Life, honey. It ain't easy, we all make bad decisions, (yours seems to be monumental), and you have to learn to live with it. No one can put an easy 'fix' on what you have done. It is something you are going to have to work out. What is more important to you? Family (who you will have forever) or some teenage puppy love boyfriend? (Of which you will have many, many, many more.) You took a big step, trying to be grown up, now, it sounds like you are going to be forced to go the rest of the way by yourself. Don't worry, do what you think is right, and you can't be wrong.
Long Live Jambi
2007-01-25 11:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well your parents have a right to be upset, you made a very irresponsible decision. If you're not mature enough to live without the consent of your parents, than you're not mature enough to realize that this is a bad situation. He's not even willing to marry you but he'll let you live with him. You would choose him over your family? Why? If he loved you he would know that it would only hurt you to leave at such a young age, and he would have waited. But I'm not here to judge, if you were my daughter I'd probably feel the same but I wouldn't have cut you off. There is a valid reason why they don't like him... he took you away from them at a really young age. You didn't have a chance to have a childhood. If he has an apartment that's telling me right off the back that he's older than you. Then again you're parents could have just called the police so maybe he's the same age.You're going to be 18 in a few days, you're going to be officially an adult. You can try counseling but I doubt that will help. You could try talking to your parents, tell them how you feel and hear their side. If you don't care what they say and all you want them to do is accept it, than don't talk to them. If I were you, I'd buy an apartment of my own or move back in with my parents and see him. If they say you can't see him under their roof buy your own apartment. Love him, but don't move in with him until you're married. If you're so perfect why aren't you married? Don't say you're not old enough. When you're 18 get married, you're old enough to live with each other and have all the benefits of married people than you need to be married. If you're not ready to get married than you don't need to be together. If you're not going anywhere and he's not going anywhere than you need to get married. If he gives you an excuse, then you know where his head is.....leave. He's not worth it. If you say you love someone and you're already living together and they give you all these excuses they ar waiting around for something better to come along and you just wasted two years of your life. Move out. Good luck sweetie and if you ever need to talk or want further advice I'm here.
2007-01-25 11:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Obstacle in our Path.
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the kirig's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand. Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.
2007-01-25 11:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I left home and worked my way through school at a young age too. I was only 14. I did not have a live in b/f until I was 18 and that was a mistake. My mother didn't speak to me for 3 years. You need to find a way to deal with it. For me, I did what I had to do and lived with the consequences. I had friends who were supportive of my choice and were there for me until my mother came around.
It isn't easy, but I'm happily married now and have 2 kids. My family has come around to understanding why I did the things I did.
You'll make it as long as you are tough and determined.
2007-01-25 11:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by kiera70 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 07:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a decision. You choose Boyfriend over your family. Now you have to learn to live with the consequences of that decision, and you’ll be living with them for the rest of your life. I hope it was worth it, and I hope when your children someday ask you ‘why haven’t I ever met my grandparents’ that you can explain it to them. This decision that that you made not only affects you…it also affects your future children.
2007-01-25 15:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wright a heart felt letter to them about how you feel about him and that you also love them. once you do that then the ball is in their court. good luck
2007-01-25 11:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They made the decision not to see you. If they get over it and wish to see you on your terms then decide if they are worthy.
2007-01-25 11:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are happy with your bf , than forget about everyone .
Everything will be fine , time will say .
So don't be sad . Oneday they all will love you , your parents , sister , brother .
2007-01-25 11:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by Tithi 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
blood is thicker than water. You will always have heart ache if you choose your partner over them. If he dumps you, then who do you have?
2007-01-25 11:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by Rose 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋